I believe we are so used to obey the rules and fearful if we don't so most of us will not disobey the law which our representatives are supposed to uphold. I do agree that once our representatives are elected they become the other guy who decides for us because we gave them the right to do so.
However there may come a time when our elected representatives are not acting in our best interest but because they have the power its difficult to object as they have the upper hand and have the law on their side to arrest or prosecute you based on our laws that have been formulated over the past hundred of years. Someone said that when there is an election it is Democracy and once the election is over we live in a Dictatorship because we gave away our right to decide.
I agree there has to be accountability and that the people representing us should listen more to the majority. There is however one problem there that most people are to lazy to get involved and would rather put up with it before they rebel. Because for most of us life is good and we have an easier time criticizing than take action and make a real change.
In old Rome the politician practiced bread and circus for the people so they would not get involved in politics and decision making and we have the same scenario happening here. We have all sorts of entertainment and fast food to satisfy us all, so why should we rebel if life is comfortable?
If we lived in an oppressive country and feared for our lives and lacked the privilege of free speech I could see how people would be more likely to react against their oppressors and take action.
Having rules and people to carry out the uncomfortable task to get us all to behave and follow the agreed upon laws is the beauty of living in a Democracy. With anarchy and the removal of the laws and the rules that make us civilized is not as utopian as you may think. Every man for themselves would not really improve our lives so I would say that until we have a better option I would choose option 1 where we have laws and agree to obey them until a better system comes into action. Our quest for a better system is still a noble quest and should still be pursued but we cant demolish what we have until we have a viable alternative to replace it with.