Hi 
My response to your post is long so I thought I would make a post and just link it. I have a lot of questions and think it would show great character on your part if you checked out my response and made one back so your followers and myself can fully understand your position on this subject better.
I'm going to be going thru your post and posting quotes with my questions or points and then at the end I will add my main questions and thoughts. so thank you for reading my response and cant wait to hear back from you
Negative feedback spirals and how they eat your brain... by dwinblood60 in philosophy
This day truly sucks! -{dwinblood}-
That sucks bruh, what's up?
I can't believe that happened.-{dwinblood}-
What happened? Do you think you could tell me about it?
I must tell you all about it.-{dwinblood}-
Cool bruh, you know I'm here for you whenever you need someone to talk to.
Then hopefully you are a good friend and blindly agree with me.-{dwinblood}-
I'll try to be a good friend but I will not blindly agree with anyone.
Come on bruh, this the homie skeptic you talking to.
I am no psyschologist.-{dwinblood}-
Yeah I think we all could have guessed that.
Not a big deal either unless your trying to pretend you are one.
But do go on.
I am simply a person that can make observations, ask questions, and form hypothesis.-{dwinblood}-
Yes, we all can do this but You forgot the part where next you go and research and do some experimentation and come up with some facts on why your hypothesis is correct or false. Without doing that your just someone running around talking imagination make believe.
This post is based around a hypothesis I currently operate under.-{dwinblood}-
You operate under a hypothesis? Why not facts, logic and reason?
I share it because it has been helpful to some people I have shared it with verbally.-{dwinblood}-
Thanks bruh, but when you going to tell me what happened that made the day so horrible for you? You just said you have to tell me about it.
Negative Feedback Spiral
Something that really upsets you and gets you down happens in your life.-{dwinblood}-
That sucks bruh, but its in the past.
You go over in your head how it happened, and why it happened and it truly does not feel fair.-{dwinblood}-
Life is not fair, learn from it so you can avoid it happening again.
You try to sleep, you try to move onto other things, but you keep getting drawn back into how life sucks at the moment.-{dwinblood}-
Life sucks, harden the fuck up. Your life is a dream compared to a 10yr old sex slave, or someone that has to preform donkey shows daily to be able to eat that night.
Why are you not being treated fairly?-{dwinblood}-
Shit, tell that to the donkey.
life is not fair. Deal with it, or don't. Up to you.
It eats at you and eats at you.-{dwinblood}-
what does? When are you going to tell me what happened and why it made your day suck?
"I'm so sorry that happened, that truly sucks." You then wander off.-{dwinblood}-
Maybe, that is all they can say to you if they have to blindly agree with you in order to be considered a friend to you?
My life sucks, and now I have friends corroborating how much my life sucks.-{dwinblood}-
Your really going to try to drag your friends into it? Sounds like all they are trying to do is help but don't know how to say anything to you without you getting more upset because they aren't blindly agreeing with you. If life sucks so bad, why not do something about it? Bitching and crying about it isn't going to fix anything.
I need to go onto facebook, steemit, reddit, twitter and talk to people about how my life sucks.-{dwinblood}-
You have not once talked about how it sucks. I am still waiting for what happened that made your day so horrible. and why do you feel the "need" to get on social media and cry about it?
In these places you'll have a lot of people that do not know the circumstances or have all the information relating to what caused your life to suck other than the parts you choose to share with them.-{dwinblood}-
You share nothing (like this post) but continue to cry about how life sucks(like this post) and also bitch about how people that try to help but can only say "I'm sorry that sucks" is making it worse? It's you not them.
They will become an "Echo-chamber" for your woes.-{dwinblood}-
If you will not say why you think your life sucks and expect everyone that you consider a true friend to blindly agree with you then yes, you are creating an echo chamber for yourself.
This spiral can be dangerous, and could result in you making decisions for the wrong reason, and it can even lead to suicide.-{dwinblood}-
what spiral?, all you did was cry about nothing because you wont say what happened or why life sucks. Now your trying to blame the wrong decisions you make on the fact that your "life sucks" to you? Why not take some responsibility for your life and actions?
(SIDE NOTE: If your going to kill yourself you should go to a professional because as
I have seen many people get caught in these spirals.-{dwinblood}-
They need to harden the fuck up.
Often they are focused on one aspect of an event and do not truly look at the situation from a broader perspective.-{dwinblood}-
Outside perspective changes nothing. It is in the past. Learn from it and move on. Crying about it is not productive.
Are you ever going to talk about what happened that you said you "needed" to tell us about?
You've likely heard the saying "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence".-{dwinblood}-
Yes I have, but do not see how in any way how that has anything to do with why your life sucks. If you want the greener grass get off your ass and get it. Crying about how you wish your grass was greener or how it isn't as green as (insert name here) does nothing.
So what can you do?-{dwinblood}-
You can do anything, sit and cry about the spilled milk, get up and clean it up, get some new milk, roll around in the milk or drink it up off the floor if you want. you can do anything.
-smh- this is why people only tell you "that sucks, I'm sorry" and walk off.
Try to teach yourself to recognize when you are slipping into one of these Negative Feedback Spirals.-{dwinblood}-
Yes, learn to realize when your acting like a little bitch, then stop it! Nothing you have talked about once has anything to do with feedback.
If you can teach yourself to notice them, then you are in a position to defeat them.-{dwinblood}-
Is it that hard to not act like a little baby? It is not some great enemy you must defeat.
Here are a few things I recommend doing:
•Look for the silver lining. Is there anything you can say out loud that was good that happened around this event?-{dwinblood}-
Does it mater? It is in the past all you can do is learn from it and move on. How does trying to think of something positive (when there might not be) help or change anything in the past?
•If you can't find anything positive to say about this event. Find something positive to say about anything, and say it out loud. Do this many times if need be.-{dwinblood}-
LMFAO! How does loudly saying something positive over and over change anything?
( Fuck my wife died of cancer and she was only 23, I got that promotion last week, I got that promotion last week, I got that promotion last week, yep everything is better now. thanks Dr. dwinblood. ) -smh-
Why?-{dwinblood}-
Why what? Why anything and why wont you finally say what happened after saying you needed to talk about it.
If you are exercising your mind to find positive things to say it is too busy to continue the negative spiral.-{dwinblood}-
Trying to think about positive things is not exercising your brain. You can only think about one thing at a time? Why can't someone think about positive things to say and think about negative things at the same time?
If you deprive yourself of the deadly negative spiral long enough it gets easier and easier to break loose from it's deadly grasp.-{dwinblood}-
Yes, the sooner you stop acting like a pussy the easier it is to stop the bitching and crying.
One thing you can ask yourself early on that might help is simply this. "Is this one of those grass is always greener on the other side of the fence moments?"-{dwinblood}-
help with what? You have still not said.
How does "the grass is greener" play into any of this? All you have said is your life sucks because your life sucks and your depressed about being depressed. Bitching and crying about the grass someone else busted ass for does not help you get your grass greener.
If it is and you know it that might be all you need to confirm with yourself to break free from it's grasp.-{dwinblood}-
Depression because of wanting something or jealousy of something some one else has? Is that why you are saying your life sucks? Does not sound like a reason to be depressed or to think your life sucks to me. Sounds like your just throwing a fit like a 3yr old does. Some reality smashed in your face is all that is needed.
If it does not seem to be such a situation then the bullet points I mentioned above might help.-{dwinblood}-
What saying positive thing out loud over and over? -smh-
These types of spirals do truly eat our brains capacity....-{dwinblood}-
How the hell does it eat brain capacity?
Life (if you want to call it that) can begin to revolve around these negative spirals.-{dwinblood}-
What would you call it if not life?
You are choosing to make your life revolve around the negativity. You can not blame anyone or anything for your choice to make your life revolve around negativity.
It truly consumes a lot of your thought that could be put to so many better uses.-{dwinblood}-
You choose to let it consume you instead of taking action. It is in the past move on.
So in a sense it is eating your mind... Take your mind back!!-{dwinblood}-
You are choosing to be depressed. Nothing is eating your mind. Harden the fuck up. Crying never fixed anything.
I guess my main questions are:
What was the thing that happened that made this day suck, you never said?
At what point do you take responsibility for sitting around crying when you could be doing something to fix the problem your upset about?
If it is something in the past and there is nothing you can do to change what happened, why spend so much time not accepting it and learning from it to avoid it in the future?
Thanks a lot for your time and I really look forward to hearing back from you so you can fill me in on the stuff I don't understand.
This is a link to the original post if anyone wants to check it out.
https://steemit.com/philosophy/@dwinblood/negative-feedback-spirals-and-how-they-eat-your-brain