Today Domenico Iapello (relational coach), author of the course how to win back a man , will talk to you about the first mistake to avoid starting the best way and with elegance, the path to win back your boyfriend.
When we lose a person with whom we know we have a strong connection, we also lose many other things.
Self-esteem, motivation, clarity, peace of mind, etc.
But we can use this bad time in our favor, turn this weakness into strength and use it as a lever to create an even more solid and lasting relationship. That's how:
The word to Domenico.
Hello and welcome!
Before addressing this topic if you really want to win back your boyfriend, I would like to ask you a question and I am sure that you would answer in all sincerity.
See, to achieve a goal, one must first look at one's potential and limit one's weaknesses.
Are you respecting your boyfriend's choice?
I'm sure your casting answer will be "yes". Of course you'll be ready to say that since you left, you've never had eyes for anyone else and so your respect for him is absolute.
I would not scare you or confuse you, but it does not work exactly like that.
Now you are very determined to win back your boyfriend and relive those wonderful moments with him.
Good! In this regard, I ask you a series of questions and I would like you to answer each one with a "yes" or "no".
Did you write to him from the day you left?
Did you happen to want to go to places or places where you know to meet him?
Have you taken a walk around his house to see if his car is parked there?
Do everything to talk to us when you happen to meet him on the street?
Do you constantly talk about your story with friends or relatives?
Ask around for information about him?
Are you trying to hang out with common friends so you can meet him?
Check Whatsapp to find out if it's online?
Do you visit your Facebook profile and look meticulously for each type of track left by him?
Well, my dear, if you answered yes even to a question among those you just read, your reconquest path should be reviewed.
If you really want to win back your boyfriend, you have to listen carefully to what I'm about to tell you.
Unconsciously visualize your day according to him, and then act according to all that leads to him.
Enter a mechanism that is difficult to restrain. You have the smartphone in your hand and can not resist the temptation of being a secret agent. The same on social networks.
Yet you could tell me that you are not doing anything wrong, especially to him.
You do not know how much I understand you, those are the moments when you look for the holds to maintain, even if virtually, a bond with him.
Let's take another typical example: move from places that usually habitually.
Also in this case you tend to set your day and your movements according to your habits and your obsessive desire to be with him.
But you're not obsessed, you're just scared, panicked and afraid of losing it.
Certain things that he perceives as a lack of respect and above all catalogs you as a weak and insecure woman.
It would reveal a woman who asks the attention of a man who thinks he has restarted a life without you.
Yes, read well, "believe" because in reality you do not yet know how much your presence is missing, but until you let it know, you will not really feel the importance it represents in your life.
How to regain your boyfriend without anxiety and pressure?
I imagine that at this moment you are driven by the desire to tell him something, to make him understand that this situation, hell, makes you feel bad.
I understand you very well, I know what you're talking about, trust me.
Yes Domenico, but I tried to make him think and he did not want to know, what else can I do?
My dear, I tell you from experience that we human beings, we can use words in two ways: to understand what we want or to excite.
Well, if you want to make him understand what you really want, you have to go down the second way.
The emotions!
I see! But do not you think that if you spend a lot of time it could end up in the arms of another?
I can assure you that, trying to convince him in all the ways that being with you is the best choice he can make, paradoxically he will push him to look for something else.
It happens in 9.9 cases out of 10 in the stories that I follow.
Domenico, but now I have tried many, I think he got tired of this situation and that now it is irrecoverable? Can I still do something?
How about starting to make yourself feel understood?
To make him understand that you're willing to put yourself aside if that's what he wants. Trust that a man ( and I speak as a man ) only when he really loses one thing, starts asking questions .
Only at that time Never before or during the pressures to get back together.
The route is not easy but for the moment respect it until the end.
It strictly avoids the control of social networks and Whatsapp.
Write him a simple text message and tell him that you agree with him and that you want to turn the page. Thank him for everything and disappear for a while.
Later you will understand how much benefit you will get.
So I strongly advise you to take your life back.
Surely you will think that from the outside it is easy to say and in fact you are right.
However, even if now it does not seem real to you, you have all the necessary tools to start a good reconquest of your ex-boyfriend, but first of all of yourself.
We are only at the beginning. You'll see, it will be nice to come back to smile!