Look at the story of Abdullahi Ibn Abubakar and
Atikah bint Zaid, Atikah was so beautiful, one of
the most beautiful female companions, they were
so in love, that they were mad about each other,
if they could swallow each other they would have
done that. Abdulllahi was crazy about her, to the
extent that he started missing Salat and Jihad,
until Abubakar Siddiq (RA) commanded Abdullahi
to divorce her, Abdullahi became depressed that
he started singing love poems about Atikah up and
down at home.
This was what made Abubakar to re-consider the
issue and eventually Abdullahi and Atikah were
back together again, and Abdullahi even made
Atikah to promise him that she won't marry any
other man after his death. The Prophet (SAW)
said, a woman will be with her final husband in
Jannah (Tirmidhi).
Abu Darda and Umm Darda were also another
lovebirds, to the extent that when Abu Darda died,
Umm Darda refused to get married again cos she
thought no other man can replace Abu Darda.
When Muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and
said, am already engaged to
Abu Darda in paradise. How sweet!
That's eternal love. Marriage can be made
beautiful or terrible, it all depends on d spouses.
When Umm Silah, the wife of Ahmad Ibn Hanbal
died, he wept and said, I have lived with this
woman for the past 30 years and we never
quarrelled for once. People asked him, how is that
possible? He said, whenever I am getting angry
she keeps quiet and whenever she is getting
angry I keep quiet, so we never had
mutual argument. How romantic.... How many
couples today can spend a week without
argument? Brothers learn to be romantic
and sweet, some brothers are even shy of
expressing their love for
their wives, if you don't tell her your feelings, who
will??? Ahmad
Ibn Hanbal said, women love to be told clearly
that they are loved,
it strengthens the feelings and affection, if you
refuse to express
your feelings for her, it will create a barrier of
harshness between
you and her.
Most couples today are only romantic for the first
few years of
marriage, after that, its assumed that it’s childish
to keep saying (I
love you). What's childish about it? Wallahi those
3 words are the basis and foundation of marriage.
Brothers, be romantic:
sometimes u should eat from the same plate and
feed your wives, sometimes put meat In between
ur teeth and put it in ur wives mouth by way of
kissing thereby mutually sharing the meat. At
times involve in pillow fights with your wives,
throw pillows at
her. when she is angry, hold her and tell her how
beautiful she is, tell her "you look more beautiful
when you are angry", if she is still angry, then
move back and throw chocolates at her, spray
perfume on her or pour water on her, all these are
part of being romantic. At times carry your wife in
your arms around the house,
at times carry the baby on your back too. At
times play simple
games together, throw balls at each other, have a
mini gymnasium
in your house where you train your wife, carry her
and let her carry
you if she has the strength, but don't allow her to
knack you
down!!! Watch Islamic stations together with her,
eat pop-corn
together, sleep on the same room and on the
same bed, don't
have your own separate room, some men now
have their own room where they run to, after
quarrelling with their wife, who are you leaving her
for? Even if a man practices polygyny, he can't
have his own room, he has to be rationing rooms
from one wife to the other. That's justice!!!!!
At times, go on a stroll with your wife and chit-
chat with her, go to
places of amusement or admiration of nature if
the places are free from half naked zombies.....
Don't only buy gifts for your wife when she is sick
in the hospital, buy for her often. The best gift is
the one that comes from the bottom of your heart
not the store. Shop things for her, there is nothing
wrong with you going to the market with your
beards and say "I want to buy female underwear,
its just a gift of love. May Allah bless all our
spouses. Amiin...