I'm 25 years old, my man is 31, we have been together for 5 years and in principle we have a good relationship: we rubbed ourselves together and understand each other very well. We like to spend time together, but our relationship does not go to another level.
We are both from Russia, but we live in another country for quite some time. I live in a small apartment myself, and my beloved person lives with my mother and together with my grandmother. I would not say that he is a mama's son or that is very dependent, and seems not to have noticed that his mother took care of him through crap, in the sense that he cooked a lot for him, or washed him / her constantly. He is able to do everything himself. But he does not even stammer about coming together to get married. He says that all this will happen when he writes his thesis and then earns money for living together. When I tell him that it's all possible to do and when you live together, he is silent and snores.
Around me, friends, relatives, girlfriends get married after a few months or a year of acquaintance, give birth to children, their husbands manage to do everything. And I just look like they run away into the distance. I do not demand everything from him, I myself am ready to work, save money, help me settle down, but he dismisses me. He also does not let me go, I've already tried to leave, because I feel that we will never live together, not now, not in 10 years. But he always then uses all his charms and I returned.
When the conversation is about marriage, and I bring my girlfriends an example as they do, he turns the conversation around so that I feel like a kind of mercantile fool who wants a magnificent wedding and then babysit. I'm sad, as if I do not deserve that a guy offer me a hand and a heart. He is my second guy, before him I had a short-lived relationship, the first love so to speak.
What to do in this situation? Wait, when a person ripens or seek happiness with another? He's good, I love him, he's a soul mate. But I'm afraid that it is not for the family.