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Relationships or rather marriage are the basis of family stability. However, the appearance of conflicts in the marriage relationship also plays a relevant role both for its strengthening and for its weakening.
Problems can cause very serious injuries in marriage, but what about good marriages? Can conflicts damage good marriages?
Conflicts do not have to cause harm to a well-constituted marriage. Actually, conflicts are an important part of every good marriage. When we handle them wisely, they can lead to greater intimacy, while if they are resolved inappropriately, they can lead to isolation. We cannot say when we will have a conflict, but how we should handle it. Therefore, what is your decision: privacy or privacy?
In many ways, marriage is like two porcupines who feel cold and approach in search of heat. There will be a conflict! Of course, if they remained separated, there would be no conflict (and they would still be cold). For the union of two porcupines to work, it is necessary to negotiate.
Some people think they have a good marriage because they never had a conflict. How do you think they solve the matter? I will tell you how: they live independent lives. "You do your thing and I do my thing. We get in touch from time to time to solve minor problems, but in general we keep separate agendas."
Anyone can avoid conflict if he lives like a lonely porcupine. However, if you want a
true intimacy, they must make decisions together, move together, not as in a duel, but as in a duet. After all, two approaching porcupines must learn to relate carefully because if they don't, they could get hurt a lot. Therefore, from this type of conflict comes true intimacy that results in a solid marriage.
All marriages, good and bad, have problems. And in some as in others, those problems resemble each other. The big difference lies in how a good marriage handles the problem. The Bible teaches us: "Consider yourself very happy when you have to face several trials (James 1: 2). Why joyful? Because the test produces patience and patience produces maturity (James 1: 2-4).