First of all, a cordial greeting on behalf of our Lord Jesus Christ, to all the people of God in general who share the beautiful message of good news of salvation to all corners of the world. Peace be with all of us.
It's sad, but sooner or later we'll all meet someone who feels anger or bitterness towards us.¿ What should you do when you become the object in other people's way? ¿ How would you react to the fury that someone directs you specifically?
Responding to bitterness with more bitterness always leads to a combative or even explosive situation. ¿What should you do then?
First, declare the truth of the matter. ¿What happened? ¿How did the problem begin or develop? You made a mistake? It may be that you can not completely reconstruct the facts to understand the situation, but try to remember in all honesty how the outbreak occurred.
Second, listen carefully to what the other person says. Bitterness and anger almost always comes from a deeper wound. Say something similar to this: It seems that this produces a lot of anger. ¿Can we talk about the matter? The simple echo of asking the question can help calm things down. Even if you can not pluck the root of bitterness in other people's lives, you can stop it from taking root in your own heart and ask God to help you understand why these people feel this way.
Third, whenever you are under personal attack, it is very important that you remember God's personal love for you. It may be that he made mistakes, but that did not affect the feelings of the Lord about you. Ask him to encourage you through his word.
Fourth, ask God to help him respond with his love and his grace, and protect him from angry attacks. In (Psalm 64), we see that David prayed to God asking him to deliver him from bitter attacks full of bitterness. He wrote: they throw as much as their arrow, a bitter word to sneak out in secret to the whole (Psalm 64.3, 4). Sometimes the angry person will attack you by putting others against you, with accusations. However, you should not fear such a poison, because God protects and defends his people (Psalm 64.7-10).
Bitterness is a much deeper and more complex reaction than a simple momentary expression of anger. It is a satanic strength that must be faced with all frankness. God commands us to be careful in this area: lest anyone fail to attain the grace of God; that some root of bitterness springing up, hinders you, and by it many are defiled (He 12.15).
If you come to be the target of bitter accusations or hateful personal attacks, invoke the protection of God. Ask him to give you wisdom in his dealings with the other person, as well as a healthy perspective on the whole matter. Your relationship to the attack is what most interests God, so be firm without losing love in everything you do and say.