It's been quite a while that I want to talk about this subject ...
We all have known very charismatic figures in our daily life .. Famous like Bill Clinton , Obama , Brad Pitt ... or just regular persons , But what's happening ? why are they very special ?
According to psychologists, charisma is composed of 3 Elements : Presence , Power , Warmth...
1.Presence:
This means that when you talk to a charismatic person you feel like ; he is totally with you ! like you mean the world to him, this boosts your trust and makes you forgive his/her mistakes more often. Threatening you
or comforting you this isn't the case .... The real deal is they live in the moments with full potential and thus Give them Huge advantage noticing things and feeling things you don't see or notice and, therefore, acting properly..because you're not living the moment either by fear , stress .....
Begin to listen more and keep a good eye contact with them and free your mind from life problems at least for that moment.
Bill Gates is a good example , whenever he enters a room you feel a large aura around him , this also shows as presence can be enhanced by popularity , good reputation.....
2.Power :
This is the most element of charisma that I personally like, From evolutionary perspectives Humans are social creatures and social creatures often need a leader , a leader is chosen by certain types of criteria , power is the most important one . Power Don't mean a muscular body , it means a personality of steel . Their body language is almost perfect every time. You can start working with your own inner power by practicing strong body posture , search for influential sentences and try to work on your weaknesses as quite as possible . Confidence is the key word here because confidence= Power . keeping this in mind can help you build confidence and gain power over time , do not rush !
3.Warmth:
The last element is a love element. we are hardwired to a native fight or flight response , our mind classifies peoples when we meet them as friends or enemies ... So this element radiates a wave of love and security to the person next to you. Dali Lama is a life proof of a very charismatic person yet you feel very relaxed and secure when he talks,, this is the power of warmth, my friends !
you can increase your warmth by smiling more but not too much ( avoiding being seen as needy ) , have gratitude every day because it will erase hate and guilt and a whole bunch of bad things from your heart and free your soul. last but not least try to be more curious about people's life and don't be egocentric all the times.
I hope you like this post ! This subject is very delicate so I will explain differents points in future posts