Sex appeal is not on purpose. - Heather Locklear
Correct, Heather. It's sophistication at its best.
To me one of the most attractive types of sex appeal is intelligence. I can't help myself, but I'm totally into attributes such as a keen perception, a mercurial mind and eloquent talking.
Intelligent people have a strong external effect. They literally fill rooms with their aura and charisma. But besides these soft facts there's a series of hard facts - real personality traits - which are often found in and generally characterize intelligent people.
What is it that makes intelligent people so attractive? As always: science has the answers!
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A man's intelligence is a massive turn-on!
Raise your hand if you agree!
It's neither the three-day beard nor the fancy sunglasses. It's the way he engages with his environment.
The last time I fell in love with someone it was due to his way to speak. I'm not kidding! I was absolutely fascinated by the way he was able to use his language, making words become tools to express himself in a very unique way.
I literally embraced his vocabulary :-)
We love nerds, and that has even a scientific background.
Intelligent people have a very developed and wide range of strong character traits that make them become very interesting personalities. The attraction is based in the strength of the individual.
Let's check it out: what makes them so interesting?
According to scientists, these are typical traits of highly intelligent people:
Source: 8 Personality Traits of Highly Intelligent People (Backed by Science)
- They're highly adaptable: Intelligent people adapt by showing what can be done regardless of the complications or restrictions placed upon them. They love challenges and change.
- They understand how much they don't know: The smartest folks are able to admit when they aren't familiar with a particular concept. They're pretty aware of their skills but have no need to be arrogant.
- They have insatiable curiosity: Even Albert Einstein reportedly said, "I have no special talents, I am only passionately curious." Smart people are thirsty. They love learning new things and constantly broadening their horizons.
- They're open-minded: They don't close themselves off to new ideas or opportunities at any time.
- They like their own company: Intelligent people tend to be very individualistic. They appreciate social connection, but don't need it all the time to be fulfilled.
- They have high self-control: Scientists have found a link between self-control and intelligence. Smart people are able to overcome impulsiveness and carefully plan their next steps.
- They're really funny: Highly intelligent people tend to have a great sense of humor which is due to their well developed verbal intelligence.
- They're sensitive to other people's experiences: Smart people show a high level of empathy. Also emotionally intelligent individuals are typically very interested in talking to new people and learning more about them.
Concluding, the intelligent man is adaptable, humble, curious, open-minded, self-suficient, self-controled, funny and empathic. What a package! :-)
If some of us are purely attracted by these type of personalities, then science has created even a word for them.
Viva Sapiosexuality!
A sapiosexual is defined as a person who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.
The brain is the largest sex organ. Those who admit to being sapiosexual will say that they are turned on by the brain and tend to be teased or excited by the insights of another person. As foreplay, the sapiosexual person may crave philosophical, political or psychological discussions because this turns [him or her] on. - Diana Rabb (Ph.D in psychology)
Scientist have suggested a number of reasons that lead us towards understanding the link between intelligence and attraction, but having studied the above mentioned 'typical personality traits' I think it boils down to 'substance'. Smart people know that substance is hard to achieve in life, and that's why they're very independent people for instance.
Smart people don't go half-way. They go all-in or leave it be.
If you think about it in terms of human evolution, our ancient ancestors would supposedly have wanted an intelligent partner simply for the purposes of survival. Now on an evolutionary level we're a couple of steps ahead, but still the wish to share our time with a strong partner is a basic instinct that always exists in us.
And you, have you ever fallen in love with a person because of her/his smartness?
Then we'd have one more thing in common :-)
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