One of the purposes of marriage is to enjoy the benefits of synergy. Synergy in its simplest definition means the benefits resulting from combining two different groups, people, objects or processes the effect of this combination is stronger than their summation.
Understand the bible definitions and benefits of Synergy from different translations of Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.
9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (NLT).
9 It's better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the work, share the wealth. 10 And if one falls down, the other helps, but if there's no one to help, tough! 11 Two in a bed warm each other. Alone, you shiver all night. 12 By yourself, you're unprotected. With a friend, you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn't easily snapped. (MSG).
9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (KJV)
Learn how to…
Help each other:
You are not independent of your spouse. And don’t wait until your spouse asks you for help. One of the benefits of synergy is the ability and willingness by couples to help each other. If you want the best of your marriage, be a helper to your spouse.
There are many ways to help your spouse. For instance, you can help through appreciation and acknowledgment. This alone will boost the self-esteem and self-confidence of your spouse.
There are four categories of help you can render to your spouse. They include:
Spiritual
Emotional
Physical
Financial
Keep Each other Warm:
Many married men and women are committing suicide lately. The husband will take his life while the wife is alive or the woman will take her life while the husband is alive.
Depression and other related emotional sickness are on the increase. A woman that respected so much died because of depression and her husband was there. Why? The reason is simple; there is no emotional connectivity.
Another benefit of synergy is emotional connectivity. To keep warm means to be emotionally connected to each other. This is the ability to discern the emotional state of your spouse. And to possess the ability to lighten up your spouse when he or she is emotionally down.
God wants you to know how to help your spouse wind up his or her day. Find out how was his or her day. Make sure he or she is not going to bed with unnecessary burdens. If there is any burden or worry or any issue, join hands together and hand it over to God before sleeping.
An expert said that when there is an issue between husband and wife that they should make sure that they settle it that same night in the bedroom naked. What wonderful advice! I have tried it and it works like magic.
Defense from attack:
The best way to allow an enemy (Satan) an inroad into your marriage is to allow work alone or operate in isolation. The first thing the devil does to destroy any marriage is to bring an emotional disconnectivity.
Keep your mind with all diligence. The message translation of Ecclesiastes 9:12 says that we are unprotected from the attack of the devil if we are not working in synergy.
If you want to enjoy continuous victory in your marriage, you must learn and develop the habit of working together with your spouse. You must always remember that God created your marriage in such a way that you and your spouse will be operating like one.
Not easily broken:
The major reason for infidelity is the presence of a crack in the synergy or the absence of synergy in marriage. couples that are fully connected spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially have no business with infidelity.
The bible says that three cords are not easily broken. What are three cords it simply means the perfect combination between God, the husband, and the wife?
To have a better benefit of synergy with your spouse, there is three vital knowledge that you must possess. They are:
You must know about Jesus
Full knowledge of yourself
Knowledge about your spouse
Good reward for their labor:
Have you seen a business or organization or church or a home that is run by two couples that are operating in synergy? Two good heads are better than one.
Another benefit of synergy is a good reward for couples. Why not begin to learn how to work together with your spouse in certain areas. I am not saying that two of you should be in the same office or into the same business. But if there is any person that will understand what you do, it must be your spouse.
I have benefited from synergy. I have always run to my wife whenever I am at a crossroads because she has an eye for black dots, I will lay the whole matter for her on the table and She will pick them out and put lines on them and I will pick it up from there.
Despite the fact that am not in the same business as my wife, I know her major customers. I discuss her business with her. of late. There are good rewards in all these.
Benefits Of Synergy.
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!2 It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron's beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments; 3 As the dew of Hermon, and as the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life forevermore. Psalms 133 (KJV).
19 "I also tell you this: If two of you agree here on earth concerning anything you ask, my Father in heaven will do it for you.
The word unity and harmony that is used in Psalms 133:1 are synonymous with the meaning of the word synergy.
Some benefits of synergy include:
Anointing of God (supernatural empowerment).
Dew of Hermon (supernatural increase and growth).
Assurance of God’s blessing.
Assurance of answered prayer from God.
Conclusion:
Two people will not walk together unless they have agreed to do so. Amos 3:3 (ERV).
Synergy is simply a thing of the mind. For it to work well, it must come from the inside. If there is no internal synergy, then every outward synergy is a mirage.
Make up your mind to work together with your spouse and enjoy the benefits of synergy. It won’t be easy but with determination and discipline, it will work out for your own good and that of the marriage.