It sounds like a good site. If the fee is high and the women pay it too, the wine and dine problem would mostly go away. When I was on Match.com, the women didn't pay. Therefore, they were inclined to use it for fun.

I was also on eHarmony. It was very expensive. The women matched to me were decent overall, but they were just too old to have my children. Your situation is different of course, so it sounds like it will work better for you.

I have a Physician Assistant friend who is in his 50's, and I keep telling him to try eHarmony. It would work for him since he doesn't want his own children.

On Match.com I met a gorgeous lawyer in downtown DC, but she was going for partner. She would have been working 15 hours a day. Children were not an option. The date ended in a nice kiss goodbye though. :)

This all happened well over 10 years ago too, so I'm sure a lot has changed since then. It is far more accepted these days I would guess.