Achieving self-confidence is not an easy task as it’s built gradually over time. We all are different, I would agree some have been super confident from day one and reek confidence effortlessly, some are in between (the not too confident types) and the last group are the ones with low self-esteem that basically have no self-confidence and as a result, don’t believe in themselves.
Self-confidence and believing in oneself are a pair, the moment you don’t possess one, you can’t possess the other because they go hand in hand. It is a characteristic earned from putting in work and necessary preparation, you don’t wake up one day to becoming overly confident in yourself, it’s your routines and lifestyle that determines your confidence level.
It’s okay to be shy sometimes but losing confidence in yourself would only result in you completely losing you. You definitely wouldn’t see the beauty in whatever you do, you will respect the decision of others above yours and literally won't see the ''right'' in whatever you do which is the reason why we all need to work on our confidence.
There might be numerous advices on how you could boost your confidence in a blink but even when the rules are applied, the result might not be a 100 as the outcome are bound to differ depending on the personality of each individual which is caused by different modes of thinking and action. With that said, here are some primers on how you could turn your self-confidence up a notch.
Create your vision board
Creating your own vision board should be the first line of action which involves you writing out all the things you want to achieve in life which could be related to either your personal or professional life. It could include words, quotes and images that spark up your mood, memories you would love to creates, skills you would like to acquire, your hobbies and interest etc. The more you see this board daily the more you are turbo-charged to move forwards towards making those aspirations a reality.
It’s more of a thing of the subconscious mind whereby whenever you see it, you are indirectly speaking to yourself.
Identifying things/situations that make you confident
This primarily boils down to problem and solution identification, everyone has their quirks and rules as well as the things that trigger their mood and inspiration and other things that make it worse. Our taste and preference differ, some people listen to music and their mood goes from a 0 to a 100, for others it could be a Tv programme that makes them feel very good. Hence, we shouldn’t always focus on just work and responsibilities but rather dedicate more time for ourselves to understand and find the source of our happiness and confidence and then should be incorporated into our daily routine.
Responsibilities and work are important but so is you.
De-clutter and start re-organising
We sometimes want to do stuff but as a result of some other distractions, we tend to procrastinate. Always procrastinating and letting work and piles of paper to overcrowd your workspace would turn out be a persistent problem which would accelerate your stress levels and hinder your productivity. This is the reason why you should start decluttering and completing your task at right time. Employing the Marie Kondo’s KonMari method of de-cluttering could be really helpful in assisting you in maintaining an organized lifestyle.
Engage more in random acts of kindness
The world we live in is currently filled with some many adversities, necessitating we lending a hand of kindness to others. It doesn’t necessarily have to be money, but the small things you do such as giving up your seat when needed, helping someone pick an object that dropped, basically involves just putting smiles on the faces of others. Other ways this could be done is by hosting charity events, giving back to the community and the likes. These acts would help you feel better about yourself and also improve your interaction with more people leading to you making more friends and having a better sense of confidence in yourself.
Final Words
The path towards achieving self-confidence is no rocket science but one built up gradually brick by brick. Work more and connect with yourself as its therapeutic in nature, always try to blow off those steam and eliminate the negative vibes. Journalize your thoughts, your to-do lists as they help in reconnecting events and give you a clear mindset. The above should help put you on the right course, give your self-confidence a boost shot today.
