Only god knows the amount of self help I consumed.
while it always gave me reassurance and comfort,
most of it had never set roots in my system.
I understand that it's the same with many people.
I think there are mainly two reasons why this happens:
It feels good to consume self help.
When you see/read all about how you could get better at,
let's say, being more confident, it makes you simulate
that achievement in your mind, and it feels really good.
you could say it also boosts your mood, like a little dopamine rush.
in the end what happens is that you don't train on the topic.
dealing with confidence in your life is too hard to execute, but
watching a video about it seems like a good, convenient, solution.
this leads me to reason number 2:
There is a huge amount of self help content out there.
so what happens is this: you come back to youtube, and you find yourself
watching a self help video about something completely else and become
invested in it. So now, on top of the fact that self help content is satisfying,
you have LOADS of it on the net. the last thing we need is a scatter-brain.
usually change happens slowly, with persistence, not a rapid change of intent.
...What do we do?
Well, half the solution is knowing the problem, so if you are a self help junky,
by the time you read this, you probably know it. that's good news!
I know that it is hard to choose just one area, but in my opinion,
this is what you have to do.
if you don't know what to choose, i'll give you a suggestion:
Choose something that you deal with on a daily basis
the reason for that is simple: you have more opportunities to train.
The next step is this: do just a tiny bit of training for a small amount of time.
this is a crucial step, because it allows easier persistence.
let's say you want to get better at storytelling.
the video has three main points:
- Take the listener to the same emotional journey you had when storytelling
- Have a mystery to keep listener engaged
- Have a lesson at the end for personal development
telling 10 stories a day and trying to execute all 3 points every
time correctly will lead to exhaustion, and chances are that
you are going to stop training very soon.
instead:
Tell 2 stories a day and try to execute just 1 point.
This allows you to be persistent about the process and
not lose your power.
after a week of training like that - get something new to the mix.
maybe make it 4 stories a day. a week later make resume to 2
stories per day, but try and combine taking the listener through the
same emotional journey you had, and maintaining mystery to
keep them engaged (combination of point 1 and 2).
If you manage to pace yourself this way - you are heading towards success.
In Conclusion
When it's easy to persist, persistence couples with habit.
remember that life is a journey and growth takes time.
don't over-achieve when it's persistence you are after.
Thanks for reading this post from yours truly,
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