I don't know exactly where my ideas of partnership come from, but they are there, and they made me get stuck in relationship developments.
Self-Realisation Is A Noble Goal
Who doesn't dream of dedicating himself to his own desires, needs, dreams and goals and to fully concentrate on the fulfilment thereof?
Unfortunately, reality often gets in the way. Other commitments come to the fore, self-fulfilment is overshadowed by external influences and expectations.
From these resistances, you shouldn't be unsettled in your pursuit, not least to stay true to yourself.
How self-realisation succeeds and why it has less to do with egoism than with personal responsibility.
Self-Realisation, 4 Good Reasons
The starting point is always the same question
Am I satisfied with my life as it is now?
Most people are not. The culprit is then quickly identified, the circumstances, and other people.
So they strive for more self-realisation and embark on a journey of self-discovery, authenticity, mindfulness and flow.
The concept is, unfortunately, used quite inflationary.
Always and everywhere there is that one should please, both professionally and privately, self-realisation.
There is nothing wrong with that, of course. Ultimately, it just means that you lead a life that you want to lead, utterly free of external constraints or influences.
However, self-realisation doesn't fulfil an end in itself just because the term is posited positively. Your own identity plays a decisive role here,
Who am I?
Who would I like to be?
What is important to me?
How do I want to live?
What do I want to do?
All of these questions are essential to be able to realise oneself and lead a fulfilled life.
Whoever strives for self-realisation should therefore also know his motives and be able to answer the why. After all, there are a few good reasons.
1. You Become Happier
Happiness is always individual and dependent on dozens of personal factors.
But those who don't value themselves and take their needs seriously can't be happy.
Through the process of self-realisation, however, you get to know your needs and can create the conditions for your own personal happiness by living your own life according to your own decisions and expectations.
2. You Reach Your Goals
Although goals can be achieved without self-realisation, the question remains,
Are they really yours or are you setting a goal because someone else is expecting it of you?
It isn't unusual to begin degree programs or training courses because the environment makes it a good idea.
The goal of Master may be achieved, but you may wish for something completely different.
For a self-determined life, you should, therefore, examine what your goals are, and pursue them.
"If You Want To Find Yourself, Don't Ask Others For Directions"
3. You Get To Know Yourself
The search for one's own identity and individual goals leads to one's own strengths.
Therefore, those who intensively engage in self-realisation will become more aware of their own desires, talents and abilities, and can consequently increasingly become more self-confident.
4. Develop A Profile
The process of self-realisation is at the same time a confrontation with one's own values.
These lead to a determined attitude and thus to an individual profile, a personality.
Self-realisation also helps to stand out from the crowd, not just in the job.
Why Is Self-Realisation So Difficult For Us?
But if self-realisation is so desirable for most, why do so many become so complicated?
Everywhere in everyday life, it can be observed that people make an effort to finally realise themselves, but fail to implement.
The Three Most Common Reasons
1. Self-Realisation Is A Long, Stony Path
But not all humans possess what science calls volition,
bite or stamina!
It is one of the most critical factors for success at all. It's the art of showing willpower throughout, as well as being aware of why we want something and what drives us to the core.
2. Self-Realisation Is Generally Considered Positive And Desirable
Most people measure here with double standards.
Of course, we can and should realise ourselves, but if someone else does that, it will sometimes seem ruthless, selfish and stubborn.
Accordingly, quite a few bow to social expectations and fall into conformism so as to neither offend nor please.
3. Your Own Attitude
From childhood we learn that we should adapt to the environment.
After years of conditioning through prohibitions and restrictions, it's, of course, difficult for us to put our own needs in the foreground and enforce them.
Hence, only little changes in the perceived quality of life.
Self-Realisation Tips For Implementation
However, self-realisation is not a final goal or condition, but rather a process that everyone actively pursues and advances.
In other words, the word realisation suggests a fixed and unchangeable state to be achieved. Actually, however, self-realisation always means at the same time also permanent self-discovery and self-creation.
And this includes many areas of life that are affected by it and vice versa.
So, if you choose to realise yourself, it's all about answering the vital question of how?
Self-realisation is not an easy task. It requires sustained motivation as well as the discipline of working on oneself, and sometimes wearing a thick coat.
Sooner rather than later you will have to deal with criticism and resistance.
How you can achieve self-realisation despite adversity and resistance I have summarised in the following recommendations,
Recognise What You Really Want!
Before you can even think about the realisation, you must first find out what exactly you really want.
Everyone has different potentials, goals and desires. Therefore, be honest with yourself and, above all, listen to yourself.
Don't let expectations and external pressure influence you.
Do what you want.
Once you understand what you want to achieve, it's time to take that path.
In the beginning, there will probably be a bit of overcoming, but only that way can you reach your goal in the end.
Remember your motivation and dare to jump into the cold water.
Stand by your wishes.
Expect to run into criticism sooner rather than later
Someone will tell you that your goals are not achievable or that you've made a mistake.
Don't quite ignore this criticism, but ask yourself if there is a piece of truth to it.
If you've actually made a mistake, it's time for a correction.
Because that too is part of self-realisation, taking responsibility for one's own actions.
Only then do you really act self-determined.
Don't give up prematurely.
Even if there are setbacks, you shouldn't give up immediately.
As the saying goes, Rome wasn't built in one day.
Always remember that self-realisation is not a sprint, but a marathon.
Throughout life, mistakes and setbacks are part of it. Learn from it and stay true to your path.