Reinforcement Through Repetitiveness
Why do we constantly tell the people that we love them more than once? Some people need to hear you say that you love them even though they know it. In the same sense, you need to hear yourself give yourself props all the time. Frequently, when you do something that meets your standard, tell yourself, "damn, I'm good!" The feeling you get from self-sustaining confidence is much more powerful than anyone else's opinion. Here are a few tips for mastering a long self-loving lifestyle.
Make Yourself a Custom Version of Who You Want to Be
Being a Firefighter requires lots of skill, training, and physical conditioning. However, that does not mean that you are incapable of putting out a fire. Even if you lack the physical ability, you can still learn the science behind it all through courses and become fire prevention professional. You will fight fires from a different angle, but non the less, hold your chin high because you are! The same goes for modeling, and you don't have to be labeled pretty by the masses to become a model. The point is that you can be whoever you want to be and when you are, you become proud of yourself. Being proud of your accomplishments is a key part of loving yourself.
Don't Do It Just for the Money
Do what you like (that is legal), no matter how weird it seems to others. It's better to have a career, if any, that pays little than to have a job that pays a lot but makes you miserable. When we take jobs that make us miserable strictly for the pay, it's like selling our souls. If what you like to do pays minimum wage, then you should base your needs around making minimum wage.
Scratch Your Own Back
"You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours." Yes, that quote, when taken physically, sounds convenient, but have you ever had someone scratch all the places of your back that doesn't itch because they can't find the right spot? Or scratch too soft or so hard that you feel mauled? With simple solutions, we can heal n soothe ourselves. A hot steamy bath or shower with the smell of eucalyptus and or mint will relax even the most frazzled individual.
There are simple solutions for minor mental healing too. A good pre-talk to your mirror can go a long way when you have a presentation. Telling yourself verbally to calm down in an intense situation has tremendous effects because you're counseling yourself on the spot, "Woosah". You can also achieve mental healing through meditation, laughter, and taking a day to become busy doing nothing, a "staycation."
You must love yourself before you can love others properly. Learn to love yourself and maintain it because you're going to be with yourself longer than you will be with anyone else. So enjoy it.