The renowned psychologist Brett Kahr asked over 15,000 men and women about their erotic dreams and desires - and found out some amazing things: The key to a person's sex life lies in their sex fantasies.
When it comes to sexuality, we hardly know any taboo subjects anymore. But what about our erotic sex fantasies? I think each of you has some nasty or special sex fantasies. But would you also openly betray your sex fantasies?
The psychologist Brett Kahr wanted to know more about this and has approached this sensitive topic scientifically. In by far the largest study on sex fantasies, over 15,000 men and women willingly provided information on their most secret wishes on anonymous questionnaires.
Based on this impressive amount of data, Brett Kahr has found answers to the questions of where our sex fantasies originate, what they mean and how we should deal with them.
From threesome to outdoor sex, he revealed the secret sex fantasies of women. Today I'll tell you some of the sex fantasies that play tricks in many women's minds.
The 10 secret sex fantasies of women:
1. free sex in unusual places
According to the latest surveys, most women (approx. 82%) want sex in unusual places - for example in the office or in public.
Whether in a tent, forest, car, swimming pool, changing room, beach etc..
2. Wonderful sex with another woman
As many as 17 percent of all women have the desire to have beautiful, sensual sex with another woman in one part of their head.
Many women have bisexual tendencies, which is also due to the fact that women very often compare themselves with other women's bodies. They look at each other much more closely than heterosexual men do. They look especially at female stimuli such as breasts, thighs, buttocks, etc.
This is sometimes one reason why many women are attracted to the same sex and have these sex fantasies.
3. nasty sex with several men
28 percent of women want to have sex with two or more men
After all, a fast threesome offers automatically crackling competition, lots of naked skin and even more ways to get to know yourself and your body...
4. wild sex with sex toys
Sex toys are a good method to spice up sex with a long-term partner. Unfortunately, many do not dare to talk about it or are not familiar with the use of sex toys. I have already written a detailed article on how sex toys can improve sex and relationships.
Many couples nowadays use great sex toys to spice up their sex life.
5. to be observed during sex - voyeurism
22 percent of women find it exciting when they imagine being caught or even observed having sex. They like this idea for the same reasons as men: It's erotic, turning on and somehow it's not appropriate.
6. strokes instead of love
29 percent of the women surveyed would like to trade lashes for love. With a little whip and a few slight rattles on their ass without adding pain, women can have completely different thoughts. Even a slight choking can be very exciting for many women.
7. watching others during sex
17 percent of the women interviewed find it very exciting when they watch another couple having sex.
8. to be filmed during sex or sex in front of a mirror
It's not like becoming a big porn star, it's the same feeling as if you're being watched. Even 15 percent of women have these sex fantasies.
To all men: Never do this secretly! And if you want to film yourselves during sex, then I recommend that you prepare a nice lighting, so that a very special mood arises.
9. sex with a celebrity
Whether sex with Leonardo DiCaprio, Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp... this list is long and many women - but of course also men - dream now and then of a sexual adventure with their favourite star. No wonder Hollywood bombards us daily with the wonderful bodies and the erotic love and sex stories.
We should just enjoy the dream. Because even the stars are only people with the same problems. But I love Rihanna...
10. crazy sado-maso practices
More than I would have thought, 34 percent of the women interviewed would like an adventure like in the film Fifty Shades of Grey.
(Source: Brett Kahr, "Sex im Kopf")