Many of you probably have dirty thoughts, which are mostly defined as erotic fantasies by most people and are considered taboo, even if the internet is full of porn with many specific categories and start to be validated more and more by the younger generations of people.
In this story, I will share to you how is it like to have no sexual barriers and also be open about it to everybody. No taboos make life easy and tasty. Who am i? a 28 year old guy, engaged in a long term open relationship with a beautiful 26 year old women.
Why do i say open relationship? Because we like to spice things up a little every now and then, by bringing some new sexual experiences into our play.
How do you start such a relationship?
Like any other. You meet, you fall in love, you start having a very strong connection and open up to each other in every way and most important you talk straight, honest and responsible.
We started like any other couple, and by having a very strong connection we were able to give up our social masks very early.
We were able to understand our needs and desires, and also were very happy to satisfy each others curiosities. Not after long time i have discovered that she is interested in a bisexual experience with a woman, and i knew i had to make sure this experience will be awesome for her. Soon we found a girl that wanted to join and it was fantastic for both of us. Then the next one, and another and so on... after a while we could sum up some 3some experiences and make comparisons.
What we did not expect before was the fact that, after each experience, our bond just got stronger. We usually had the second girl for a whole weekend or 4-5 days living at our place, not just for ONS, so in this time we were able to see how different connections can be with other people and somehow acknowledge that we resonate so good together.
It has been already 4 years since we had the first 3some experience, and since then alot has changed. At one point we started to visit some fetish parties and then swinger parties. We had the chance to see groups of people having casual sex, bdsm sex or just some teasing. Fetish parties are very exciting because of the bizarre play you sometimes are lucky to see or join:
After a while i encouraged her to also have desire for other men. This was not easy for her because of the guilt that she was biased by the society to feel when thinking at the possibility of sex with other men while in a relationship. And also the fact that she is way more picky than myself. After a while we were lucky enough to meet some interesting couples and we had our first real swinging experiences, and slowly she learned how to not feel guilty anymore for living her desires. As i barely had any frustration in my life, and also never felt jealous, i was only happy to be able to give her the chance of such intense experiences. Being more picky than me, when we go to swinger parties she quickly identifies the guys that are potentially qualified for her taste, and then i just adjust myself for the female partner of those guys. Usually most couples act the same way, because in this field the women are more powerful than men. We have one rule: no compromise. If one of us does not feel comfortable or satisfied, the other finds a suitable solution.
How do you find such a party?
To find a fetish or a swinger party is not very hard. In Europe almost every city has some parties going on every friday or saturday. Whan you learn from experience is how to find the GOOD parties. And this is relative, depending what good means to you. For us, good parties were the ones that do not accept single men, just couples and single women, and also age limit events, usually u35 or u40. The events that allow single men have a very bad ratio or men/women, sometimes even 10/1, and the quality of the guys is poor. Also we have nothing against older couples but the chance to be attracted to them is low.
What if you or your partner fall in love with someone else?
Although we doubt this will happen, as our main goal is to find sexual pleasure, and also our bond is build strong and in a long time, very hard to be broken by a short experience, there is always a chance. Personally i said it before and mean it: If she finds some guy that will make her more happy than i do, i will be very happy for her and will just focus my energy into my future, with 0 regrets, and same goes for her too. We give each other 100% freedom and this is what holds us together, probably the true recipe of a happy relationship, no cuffs.... except for SM fun ...
Hope you enjoyed my post, more will follow. Let me know what erotic or bdsm subject would you like me to talk about, and please be free to give feedback and ask me anything in the comments, i will be happy to reply.
Disclaimer: this is not a general recipe for happiness. Some people may find it interesting and some would never be able to live it or understand it. It is just the way it works for me, and part of what makes me happy. And also please excuse my poor English, it is not my native language. Thank you!