Greetings to you my steemian whales, dolphins and especially minnows like me.
I want to introduce you to my new topic that i will be writing on for the next couple of days. Yes it is still sex based and i will be discussing FIRST SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. It is my believe that one time or the other, we have had to engage in sex for the first in our lives, or at least hoped to do so one day. Unless of course if one is a nun or an eunuch living in a convent or a monestary, 'no woman or man who has been given her or his full share of life that cannot be gradually and skillfully initiated into sexual relationship'.
DON'T BEGIN YOUR MARRIAGE WITH A RAPE!
Balzac.
Marriages can largely be made or marred on the honeymoon. This is especially true of those cases where the bride has had no previous sexual intercourse.
The old saying that 'the course of a wedding is determined by the wedding night' is partly for about two reasons. First, the significance of the occasion from the physical standpoint; second, the tremendous emotional significance of the occasion for the woman. To a lesser degree, something of the same significance applies to the man.
Right throughout life, women tend to play importance upon occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries etc. Dates which mark changes in their lives, trifling though they may be, nevertheless seem significant to them. These are recalled throughout the years, celebrated in various ways and treated with a seriousness which few men can appreciate. Thus a wife or a woman is likely to be much more troubled by her man's omission to remember her birthday than he would be were the positions reversed, and she the forgetful one.
The great majority of women look upon the honeymoon and particularly the wedding night, as the greatest occasion of their lives. Whatever impressions are made then, stay right through life. That is why it is hopelessly wrong for the man to regard the wedding night solely, or even primarily, as an occasion for his own pleasure, but he will wound his woman emotionally and so their sexual life may be adversely effected.
Too many men, as long as they secure physical gratification, their women must also be satisfied - an impression which is quite erroneous. But this is particularly likely to be the attitude of lack of pleasurable excitement in his woman to sexual coldness, and even regard it as a sign of affection.
The clumsy brutal claiming of 'marital rights' frequently give rise to enjoy sexual union. Many such a wife thinks she must be under-sexed or frigid, when in truth she is suffering from the effects of what to her was an alarming experience on the bridal night.
Nothing is unimportant on the wedding night. In many respects, precisely how the husband should act must be largely left to his own judgment, because circumstances vary so much. Hard and fast rules cannot be laid down which apply equally in every case. Much depends upon whether the bride is totally inexperienced, and if not, upon the amount of experience she has had. It is essential that the husband should be kind, considerate and willing to wait, if necessary, before attempting complete consummation.
Of course, cases do happen in which the woman is much more experienced than the man. What follows, however, applies primarily to the much more frequent marriage of man with some experience to a woman with little or no such experience.
It must be borne in mind that the average woman feels an instinctive urge to resist complete sexual union. This resistance may not be entirely due to a fear of possible pain from the rapturing of the Hyman, though that may play a part.
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To Be Continued
#DISCLAIMER
I AM NOT AND EXPERT NOR AN AUTHORITY LICENCED TO TEACH OR PREACH SEX. ON THE CONTRARY, I AM SIMPLY AN INDIVIDUAL WHO IS FACINATED WITH THE VERY IDEA OF SEX AND ALL THAT IS NEEDED TO BE KNOWN. (IT IS MY BELIEVE THAT EVERY MAN OR WOMAN, WHO HAS WARM BLOOD FLOWING THROUGH HIS OR HER VAINS AND SINEWS SHOULD BE EQUALLY INTERESTED ABOUT THE SUBJECT OF SEX).
