Some really valid points and thoughts expressed here. It is my experience that some people just are not sexually compatible. Some people have high sex drives and others have nearly none. It's important that people are equally matched. Love and sex aren't the same thing - not even close... I believe that relationships strengthen when people can do things together - share experiences. I think that when people don't do things together anymore relationships weaken. When we strengthen relationships with people other than our partner, we potentially weaken the relationship with our partner. Shame, resentment and bad feelings are sure ways to drive a wedge in any relationship. No matter what - work on strengthening your relationship with your partner - especially if children are involved. I think it is really important to be honest and transparent with a partner where needs aren't being met. Usually a touchy subject with your partner though...