A week ago I posted this question and your 35 replies were quite interesting. I read them all, inside out, pulling the wisdom from in and between the words. Now it's time to give my input. As always, do take note that the following reflects only my wisdom, and it's definitely not THE truth (no such thing, by the way). And as you have come to learn already my perspective on life is from the consciousness point of view. Meaning, while all your answers were legit, they, in the most part, focused on the human POV. I'll go beyond it. And yes, I will also give some tips to improve your bedroom quality time.
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Three more comments before I dive into the subject -
- There is much to say about this topic, as you can imagine, and in the following lines, I will be succinct. Very succinct. You need to remember that if and when quoting my words, in order to keep the message clear and flowing.
- While reading your comments I held myself from replying to some of them because I preferred that you'd first read my own thoughts, as stated in this post. If you still have questions or want to start a discussion you may surely use the comments of this post as the platform.
- Sex for me is an extremely intimate experience. Being a private person compels me, against my educational nature, to be reserved in the words ahead. Still, I am sure you will take good things from it.
The common denominator
Music, food, electricity, your physical body, your thoughts - just to name a few - have all something in common. They are energy, different forms of energy. And energy is a form of communication.
Sex is also energy, and likewise a communication. It is a sense called communication. But the communication is not with another human being, not with aliens, not with your past/future lives, but with your own soul self. In sex, energy comes from your core being, gets compressed, and communicates to the human the Joy of the Soul, your soul.
Why do we need sex? Why do we need sex with different people? In light of my words above, the answer is clear. We crave for this joy, to experience once again the communication with our soul-self. However, we (falsely) think that in others we find that joy. In each intercourse, we hope, secretly, that the experience will reveal to us that soul-self, that part of who we are that is in joy. We think that the body/mind of our partner will open the doors to completeness. Once this fantasy does not fulfill itself we are disappointed and sad, but yet, keep trying, keep searching for the sexual experience that will be the ultimate.
Do we need sex? absolutely. But not to gain self-love or self-confidence. I have had years in which I didn't have any sexual interactions but those years turned out to be the ones in which I mastered my fragmented personality.
Some practical tips
If your partner is aware, and shares your own perspectives then you are lucky. Automatically, both of you are willing to open up, and you actually do not need to take off any clothes to be together. In fact, I bet that the sexual energy flows between you two all the time when you are in each other's company. It's a good point to mention that sex doesn't really need naked bodies. It can be initiated in a slight caress, an eye contact, a spoken word. If you don't know what I am talking about then give it some time. With the willingness and allowing it will happen to you too.
In the bedroom dedicate time to the foreplay. Each couple has their own ways, rituals, and techniques, but the thumb rule is simple. The longer the foreplay the better the connection. Remember that the connection I am speaking of is with your self. In fact, you can have a great sexual experience with a person you just met five minutes ago. And no, God doesn't judge you for having casual sex ;-) By the way, a foreplay doesn't have to be physical. Talk to each other, breath with each other, whatever fits you.
During the intercourse be aware. In most sexual acts people are focused on the pleasure, on the techniques, on the orgasm/s that they will have. There is a hovering purpose, floating above the participants - I want to have an orgasm! Get rid of this agenda. BE PRESENT. Yes, rejoice the physical sensations but at the same time feel/see/sense the communication with the soul-self. You see, when you have sex you automatically bring to the bedroom an aspect that is usually dormant, like in your dreams, so the sex is a great chance to evoke that aspect. It happens naturally, with no effort, only through your breaths and allowing.
Women - be more selfish - you are thinking too much how to please the man; you are judging yourself too harshly. Be more attentive to yourself, do the things that please you and refuse (boldly) to the those who don't resonate with you. Men, even if they refuse to admit it at first, want to serve you. Really want to serve you. So let them. When you are happy they will be in joy, vibrating and functioning (pan intended 😉😉;-)
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A few topics about sex that I didn't cover in this post but you may now want to think about in light of this post: The male/female imbalance; the wounds of the male and female; what would be really fulfilling to the man (satisfying the woman); what are females afraid of (claiming their power); the core reason for infidelity; sex and religion - what does God think about sex (doesn't care); sex and morality; masturbation - good/bad; guilt and shame during sex; the dragon within; addiction to sex; demonic aspects in your bedroom and how to get rid of them; sex and the near earth realms; and more.
All your answers were inspiring and it's not easy to choose. Thank you for sharing. Four in particular resonated with the point I had wanted to make and so I am gladly sending 1.5sbd/steem to each. 
