Through mindfulness, I have identified three different kinds of horniness I experience.
Physical
This is the feeling when my genitals are screaming for attention, the burning sensation in my groin that demands an orgasm for release. This sort of horniness is very distracting, but it is also the most easily solved since masturbation gives me the release I need.
Attraction
When my horniness is directed at someone, it is a craving for that person. Sometimes it manifests very animalistically, as a need to devour them, sexually. Sometimes it's just a need to be intimate. This kind of horniness can be a nice build up. It can cause me to initiate in flirtation and creates anticipation we can both share, provided it's mutual, of course. If it isn't mutual, well, it's a bummer. There is no outlet. I can try masturbation with them in mind, but that usually only tones it down for a couple of hours. The best way to get rid of it if it isn't mutual, is to direct my horniness elsewhere.
Fantasy
This to me is the most interesting type of horniness I experience, and is the one that brought me to identifying the different types. It is a horniness that is a yearning for a certain experience. A fantasy is played out in my mind, and that fantasy is the drive for my horniness.
This kind of horniness drives me to window shopping if I cannot find an outlet. For example, if I have bdsm fantasies, I often find myself window shopping for sex toys. Well, sometimes I find myself actually buying them, but I try not to do that in a heated state.
The other example has to do with my gender. Sometimes I crave being fucked, being penetrated, as a sort of validation or enhancement to me feeling feminine. When that doesn't have an outlet, I find myself window shopping for men.
You?
Do you experience those kinds of horniness? Other kinds of horniness? how do you deal with it when it has no outlet?
Would love a discussion in the comments.
I've used a picture of a devil for this post because that's one of the presumed sources of the word horny.