One of the issues that is being discussed with a surprising amount of controversy and ignorance is squirting, i.e. female ejaculation. A year ago, I saved a wonderful article written by a woman on the now sadly defunct ExperienceProject site that I still regard as the best summary, including a lot of practical advice which comes in handy for making your favourite woman a happy girl ;)
So here it is - read, apply, and enjoy.
Women's bodies are amazing and fascinating. We create life within us and produce breast milk to nourish that life. The variety of orgasms and the potential for a vast amount of them daily, are more reasons I just adore being female. And we can squirt!
Recently, I posted a comment in one of my favorite groups and subsequently received PM's asking me for instructions on how to make a woman squirt. I searched the net and found that most of this information was available only if you sent for a guide or DVD's, and naturally, at a cost. I scratched my head and thought, what a sham, I mean what a shame, that an ecstatic experience like squirting is there for the taking, yet at a price. Not only that, the advertisements for this information is aimed at men and it is inferred or outright blatant in the message, that you will be viewed as 'a big stud', 'irresistible', or that, women will be lined up down the block and addicted to you. I had a good laugh at least.
Then I thought more about it and was offended. After all, this isn't about making a guy look like the'Big Man'...this is and should be, about women's incredible bodies, and the heights we can reach with a partner who takes the time to discover what makes us tick. So, Big Man, if you're reading this to inflate your ego and cut a few more notches in your bedpost, kindly stumble back to your cave where you belong.
I wrote this for empowering all those women who have ever wanted to squirt but haven't. I wrote this because I believe that every woman should be able to squirt. All you have to do is find a pair of working hands, hopefully attached to someone who's not a Neanderthal, lots of lube and plenty of towels. You may also require a plastic sheet if you squirt a lot. Being relaxed and aroused helps also, although, neither was a requirement in my case and for the other women who partook of the experience, (read below in the next paragraph). Unless you're in a hurry, then you can skip to the 'juicy' part...no pun intended, well maybe. I also suggest, drinking plenty of water before and afterwards. Always stay hydrated if you want to be a squirter.
Brief History Lesson: Up until two and a half years ago, I was curious about squirting, was open to it, had partners attempt it, but I figured that nearing my 50th birthday if I hadn't done it by then, I doubted I ever would. Yes, a huge skeptic. Until one fateful night, when I attended a gathering of like-minded people. In one room was a man, who professed to making any woman squirt, except for one, he said. It wasn't long before he had a line up of willing participants. I wasn't that willing; I was still a skeptic. But my jaw dropped as one by one, five women were squirting happily; all in under 5 minutes each. One woman was greedy and took two turns...who could blame her?
The kicker was, that in all cases, there was No kissing, No foreplay, No arousal ahead of time. That blew my sweet, little mind! When it came to being my turn, I was nervous and yes, still a non believer. You know, those nasty internal messages we feed ourselves with.
I tell you this, because I deem it important to inform you, that we, as women have this ability whether our minds think we can or cannot. And that, it's in the technique itself and not the level of arousal. But it helps. No different than tuning on a switch. (For those 'switches' out there in Kink Land, you know what I mean).
My turn came, I laid lengthwise on a couch, as instructed, a towel placed beneath me, while this man donned a pair of non-latex gloves and poured copious amounts of lube over his fingers. I was told to put one leg over the back of the couch, as this man (Magic Fingers I'll call him), inserted his middle and ring fingers inside of me. He quickly located my 'spot', the urethral sponge, and stroked it gently at first until I could feel my G spot heating up. Hot, but not in the usual, aroused meaning of the word. Bear in mind that, I had onlookers; the women before me and a couple more lined up waiting. I thought this would take a while because other than the hot sensation, I was far from being horny...stage fright was more like it. It bordered on clinical.
Magic Fingers then began Pulling Up on 'the spot', in what I call the 'Lifting a Bucket' motion. Slow & gentle at first and quickly turning to fast and furious. Meanwhile, I'm lying there wondering when this would end. And just as I had that thought, BAM!, my juices sprayed out of me. I had to look down to see if it was real. My body had actually betrayed my mind; I couldn't believe it. The duration of the experience was less than 3 minutes to splashdown. After a quick clean up, I attempted to stand up, my knees buckled and I was unable to have a coherent conversation for the next couple of hours.
So, to all you darlings who wish to make their partners squirt, ( Doms who don't identify with that term, get over yourself, you must be a darling to want this for HER), these are the things to remember:
•Set The Mood: Towels, lube, gloves (optional), water and make her as aroused as possible. It will be easier for you to locate her G Spot. If you need a map, it is on the net, at no charge.
•Relax, don't do it...I mean Relax: I'm dating myself here, and not in a good way. Be sure she is laying or reclining back, with her thighs far apart. Don't we women look so beautiful in that position?
•Patience: We should all possess it, even if you don't plan to make her squirt. Yet, some women will require you to go slower, faster, harder, etc...so take the time, communicate freely as to what feels best.
•Lube Job: Liberally apply to your fingers and to her. Keep it handy, as you may be using more than you expect. And no, don't leave it on the bed with the cap off.
•Magic Fingers: He swears by using the middle and Ring fingers, so as to get maximum contact on the G spot. Try the index and middle fingers if unable.
•Come Hither=Go Away: Instead of the 'come hither' motion that many are told to do, try using your fingers as if 'lifting up' on the spot, up towards her belly, then release slightly, without losing contact with the spot, then up again, release slightly & repeat. I describe it as if you were lifting up a bucket handle. Your speed and timing will depend on your partner's response. But don't start this 'lifting' motion until you feel her G spot swollen and bumpy. Kinda feels like the surface of an unshelled walnut. You should also notice how swollen it gets for future reference.
•Practice Makes Perfect: Keep trying, if you don't succeed at first. Mr. Magic Fingers had to practice for a couple of months on his partner. It truly helps if you have constant communication between yourself and your partner. It's a learning curve for those of you who may be tempted to do 'the old in and out' fingering method. Keep in mind that you're working on her spot and no where else...well, a pair of lips clamped around her nipple may be nice too!
FYI: The more you squirt, the easier and more often you will experience it.
Remember that each woman is unique in how she squirts...some will spray in different directions, some can even aim and hit a particular area, others will have a light spray, others may cum like a geyser! That's what makes us so unique and fascinating. It is for this reason that I wrote this...it's not about money or to play into the "Big Man' syndrome...it's about women squirting and having a blast doing it!
Go forth and squirt......