... Understanding and getting to know the clitoris may unlock your sex life forever. I invite you not to dismiss the clitoris and realize how deeply wired this gland is into the female body.
The clitoris contains 8,000 deliciously sensitive nerve endings, double the nerve endings in the glans of a penis.
LISTEN UP
Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.
This bears repeating: Only one-quarter of women reliably experience orgasm during intercourse-no matter how long it lasts, no matter what size the man's penis, and no matter how the woman feels about the man or the relationship.
This actually breaks my heart a little. Women are wired to believe that they are suppose to climax during penetrative sex, so what do we do, we sacrifice our pleasure and fake it...
1) to feel "normal" like every other female having screaming orgasms from intercourse alone...
(if we stopped pretending and started talking, maybe we all might get a little more pleasure, step out of the cycle)
2) To stroke the male ego, we don't want him to feel bad about not making us cum... it'll hurt his feelings, make him feel less of a man...
*Those guys who say "I know when they're faking it"...
trust me you don't. I know you don't first hand (GUILTY) & I've asked my girlfriends and girlfriend's girlfriends... And if you do know (which you don't) and you climax and know she hasn't... and that's cool with you?
3) AND we, the female, think he might think... we're broken.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY WRITES
I am copy & pasting because I could not say this better myself...
The Main Problem: Culturally, we overvalue penetrative sex. To be a bit “punny”, our cultural over-focus on the importance of putting a penis in a vagina is screwing with women’s orgasms. Evidence for this is found in language. As detailed in my prior blog, we use the words sex and intercourse synonymously, and relegate clitoral stimulation is to “foreplay” or that which comes before the main act of intercourse. We commonly mislabel women’s genitals by the one part (the vagina) that gives men, but not women, reliable orgasms. We have countless nicknames for the penis, but few for the clitoris. More evidence for our cultural overvaluing of penetration is found in media images and our resulting false beliefs. You don’t have to look far to see media images of women having mind-blowing orgasms from intercourse alone. No wonder that most women say that this is what they want. The most common question I get from my Psychology of Human Sexuality students is how women can orgasm during intercourse.
Other Cultural Problems: There are a host of other cultural problems contributing to the orgasm gap. We have a double standard that judges women more harshly than men for casual sex. Sex education generally doesn’t focus on pleasure. Most of us have little training in sexual communication, yet good sexual communication is key when it comes to female orgasms since there are differences between women in terms of what they need to orgasm and what one woman needs to orgasm can vary from one encounter to another. Many women are plagued by body-image self-consciousness during sex and it’s pretty much impossible to have an orgasm while worrying if you look fat or holding your stomach in. Finally, reaching orgasm requires a complete immersion in the sensations of the moment—or mindfulness—and few of us have mastered this skill in our daily life, let alone our sex lives.
** Just to be clear There is no proof the G Spot exists**
“The G-spot is an issue and there are definitely people who feel strongly that it’s real,” Saltz said. “But I think that women who are fairly sexually educated know that their clitoris is where it’s at, so to speak.” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/09/g-spot-vaginal-orgasm-myth_n_5947930.html)
Clitoral Knowledge: Again, plain and simple, to close the orgasm gap, both women and men must understand that the clitoris is key to women’s orgasms. A very small percentage of women (about 3 – 10%) reliably orgasm from penetration alone. Most women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
The CLITS sole purpose is pleasure... It has nothing else to do... entertain it a little while longer.
A little more insight...
Two Other Orgasm Gaps: Two other gaps help explain the gendered orgasm gap.
Lesbian vs. Straight Sex: There is an orgasm gap between women who identify as lesbian versus straight. Lesbian women have significantly more orgasms than straight women. (For men, orgasm rate doesn’t vary with sexual orientation).
Women Alone vs. With a Partner: Women have more orgasms when they masturbate than when they are with a partner. (In the study with 800 college women, 39% of women said they always orgasm during masturbation while 6% said they always orgasm during sex with a partner).
Lesbians have more orgasms WHY because they don't have a penis in the mix to make the situation "normal"... and deep down (in a non physical way ;P) they know the clit is where it's at.
Women Alone vs. With a Partner: Women have more orgasms when they masturbate than when they are with a partner. (In the study with 800 college women, 39% of women said they always orgasm during masturbation while 6% said they always orgasm during sex with a partner).
Most women... I said MOST WOMEN (some studies reveal up to 80%)... can't... won't cum without their clitoris being stimulated BEFORE AND DURING. Guys if you're not paying attention to that pleasure area and you think she's there there's a high chance she's faking it.
Ladies, STOP faking it. There is a two way street... Everyone is to blame, only one half isn't suffering as much.
FUN FACT: And I know this to be true amongst my girlfriends. When I masturbate, I never (EVER) enter my vagina. I only ever apply pressure to my sweet spot. If a women isn't doing it to herself... alone with no judgement, no pressure, only her own desire to feel ecstasy.WHAT DOES THAT INFORM YOU?
Here's something I find interesting and also just to fuck with you...
for a women to be at the point of orgasm... It takes a little work... women are much more complex than man. Mind and body need to align at the right moment as well as the constantly avoided time spent with the clit. So it takes work, hard work sometimes BUT on the flip side and women emotional relationship with a guy can caused her to orgasm through a simple touch. MINEFIELD. but christ lads, don't start intensely staring at a women's pussy in the hope you have skills like Joey Tribiani when he looks at a bra!
I'm calling bullshit on Elvis and his 'a little less conversation' WE NEED TO START TALKING. Women speak to your men whether it a friend with benefits, your boyfriend, your tinder date or your husband... get yours! Men ask your women how they want it... or just try a little something new, take initiative.
ANNNNNNNNND let's go back to the beginning...
....The clitoris contains 8,000 deliciously sensitive nerve endings, double the nerve endings in the glans of a penis.
You know we all have that conversation with a pal, when your relationship is rocky and they'll say, "you've gotta start living for you" or "you've gotta do what makes you happy"... SAME THING.
Let's be opportunists with this information... Pleasure is for everyone.
Let's be opportunities with this information...
GO PLAY
Let's start sitting at the table together...
and remember F U C K I N G is for afters...
