Men are like parcheesi, eat one and count twenty, says the popular and extended saying. It seems to be, according to the complaints that many women say about the performance of the men in the bedroom, that they have barely had such extensive experience. In an article published in Psychology Today, the professor of the David Geffen School of Medicine of the UCLA Billi Gordon assures that, after asking his opinion to more than 200 women, the men do not finish understanding what their feminine companions need in the bed.

1- Make them feel wanted

Trust is essential in sex, and not only that of the partners, but also that which a person maintains towards himself (and this can apply to both men and women). According to Debby Herbenick, one of the most important sexologists in the US and author of Great in Bed (Dorling Kindersley) with Grant Stoodard, her studies had shown that "women who feel more comfortable with their genitals enjoy it more, have more orgasms and maintain a more positive attitude toward sex. " In other words, to feel desired (beautiful, attractive and recognized), and not a mere object that is used to calm the most primal instincts, is essential to maintain a healthy sex life.

2- Do not rush

Like any good story, intercourse must have an approach, a knot and an outcome. If we dedicate two minutes to launch the action, another two to develop it and five minutes to finish we will not be counting more than an anecdote. Female sexuality is less physical and more psychological than male sexuality, so going in crescendo, caring for each of the steps that are given, is essential to ensure amatory success.

3- Do not be a coward

During the sexual encounter, both men and women adopt different roles, both behavioral and domination / submission, although there are no wives or whips involved in the matter. That is, who takes the first step, who tells the other person what to do, etc. Although we should not go beyond certain limits without the approval of our partner, an excessive courtesy can end all the morbidity of the situation. That is, nothing of "do you mind if you unbutton the bra? Thank you".

4- Keep an open mind

Each person has their preferences, as well as a list of things they are not willing to do. The more abundant the latter, the narrower the range of possibilities offered by the bed, so it is convenient to keep an open mind, learn continuously and be advised. A "no" response in the bedroom can lead to a violent situation. Better answer with a "maybe, how do we do it?"

5- Learn new positions

If you have run out of ideas, the Kamasutra will provide you with a few dozen alternative positions, yes, not suitable for all bodies. Repeating the same habits only leads to the same results, and if we want to escape the monotony, we can start with the merely physical and try other combinations. Maybe you do not want to repeat, but at least you'll go to bed-sorry, you'll fall asleep-knowing one more thing.