A practice installed in Argentina for more than 25 years, which does not distinguish age. It is estimated that there are 10 thousand couples participating. Currently, this phenomenon is not only manifested between marriages but also in newly formed couples who do not exceed 35 years. "Before the appearance and diffusion of swingers movements, deciding to include others in bed was an alternative that only a few transgressors or pleasure seekers were encouraged to try"
The jealousy between couples has already evolved and many people have decided to try to feel when you have someone you do not know if you still love having sex with another that you may not know and also motivate you to establish your relationship or leave it for another of the that you can fall in love anyway you do not lose anything after all many people regret the time they lose with someone who does not give them stability or continuous love.
Even a productive business has been converted because there are people who have made it part of their lives and have motivated others to turn it into part of their lives and to end their personal and emotional boredom that has led others to death and suicide because they do not get a reason to live, then I show them statements of people who have lived it;
Ted Williams is not named Ted Williams. She has been swinger for more than 20 years and uses a pseudonym because, at the same time, she is professional and takes care of finances in a prestigious company in Chile. Ted went from being a simple sex practitioner between partners to become a sort of leader and international counselor of the pack. And if he decided to take on that role, it is because he got tired of the taboo and what they would say that would alienate couples who wanted to enter this world (much more to women). In his "militancy", he started a radio program on the subject and organized the "First meeting of swingers of Argentina and Chile", which was 220 couples. But a month ago he went further and became the host of the "First South American Swingers Encounter": 300 couples from America and also from Europe who gathered at a mansion in Viña del Mar to participate in what was called "The party dreamed. "
It is estimated that there are 10 million swingers in the world among those who surf the networks but he believes that there are many more.
His logic is that, with good information, many more couples with curiosities "would come out of the closet". And to help that process, just write a "Guide for swinger couples".
In a dialogue with Infobae, tell us what are the "golden rules" that must be respected to encourage sex between couples.
Can we all be swingers?
No. The swinger is for sexually healthy couples, that is, they have a rich sexuality, they play with their fantasies, they do not have to hide to see porn and they feel comfortable with each other to take another step. I mean that if in your partner a year ago you do not have sex you can not say 'let's be swingers'. Getting into this world with the idea of doing something daring to save a couple in crisis is the worst remedy that can occur to them, because here it takes a lot of communication to not have a bad time.
What happens if one of the two wants to try and the other does not?
Another one of the golden rules is not to pressure anyone and that includes your partner. There are men who arrive without telling their women where they are going. They think that because they took a few drinks and the idea came up, it's enough. The problem is that when they arrive at a club they find that the woman no longer wants and everything ends badly, often with crying and arguments. When someone feels free of pressure and with the certainty of going at their own pace, they are encouraged to experiment because they have the peace of mind that their partner is not going to leave them adrift if they do not like something. For us, that care with our partners is fundamental because among women the idea of group sex appears as something very questioned: 'How can it be, if you take your children to school?
Can someone be jealous to be a swinger?
No. Therefore, it is very important to inform yourself well beforehand. One of the questions that often arises, especially on the side of women is: what happens if you end up liking her more than me? For that not to happen the two have to have the same motivation, which is to enjoy. But if one occupies the hegemonic place in the couple and the other goes to please him and not lose it, it is likely that unbearable jealousy will appear and that one will be delighted and the other will be left outside, in cold, how his partner enjoys another person. There is another important rule: when the meeting occurs, it is important not to show too much praise and excessive desire towards someone from the other couple. My suggestion is not to talk about more. That nobody happens to be a threat to the couple.
What happens if someone from a couple is sentimentally involved with one member of the other?
The swinger demands that they be stable couples. Therefore, one of the rules is to avoid any attitude that may threaten that stability. For example, make one of the members romantic gifts, such as flowers, jewelry or chocolates.
How are the first steps taken?
One of the keys to avoiding bad moments is knowing where each one fits. For example, there are the soft couples (who in our parties we identify with yellow bracelets) who do anything but have sex with penetration: they can only look at themselves or also touch each other, kiss and reach oral sex. In full pairs (with red bracelets) you can make exchange with penetration. There are also the switches (with green bracelets) that can accept or not the penetration in their encounters. And there are the solos, we call them 'third parties' (blue bracelets) and they go to the meetings because many couples do not look for couples but make trios.
What's with the kisses?
There are couples who agree not to kiss in the mouth because that is an act of romantic connotation and prefer to keep it for them two. The rule, among those that do, is that kisses have to be in the context of sexual intercourse. This means that when they put on their clothes they can not continue kissing.
And what about the orgasms?
Men, in general, delay the orgasm so as not to be out of play during the exchange. But then we save it for our partner, either to end the meeting with her or to finish it later, at home. Women, on the other hand, seek more orgasm during the exchange. The secret is not to depend on orgasm to have a good time because the other couple, at least at the beginning, do not know what we like.
When two couples meet: is it mandatory that everyone has sex with everyone?
No. In this environment, the interaction between man and man is prohibited. Yes, interaction between two girls is allowed. The standard swinger is between heterosexual couples and in that standard the erotic game happens more among women. For example, there is a modality called blizz: they are couples who go to clubs for women to play with each other and males only watch.
Once you enter the swinger world, can you count openly?
One of our commandments is "you will not talk about the swinger lifestyle with whom you have not expressed interest." The reason is that if we tell a couple of friends and they are frightened, they will infer that other friends in common are also swingers and We are forcing them out of the closet, and if you tell a couple of friends and you get hooked with the idea of trying and the other does not, you provoke a couple problem that they did not look for.
Are not many standards?
People think we have sex with anyone but we are talking about our partners, the mothers and fathers of our children. For it to work, the rules must be very strict.
The rules that we present to you is so that you can see that many people complain about the daily life that is boring and incongruous that many people live because of the lack of culture and love that exists in the modern society of the 21st century, which does not establish a family or respect MUTUAL.