This article here of mine is not as controversial as other articles that I have normally published on this writing platform. However, it is about a topic that hits close to home, so I thought that I would post it anyhow.
So many years ago I was doing laps at my community pool, and there was this one blond-haired woman sitting too close to the edge of the pool where I normally grabbed onto to pull myself up momentarily and swim back in the direction from whence I came. I probably should have chewed her out about it, because she was really starting to get on my nerves.
I knew that if I had accidentally grabbed onto her thigh, she would likely have turned out to be one of those hussies who scream "rape" or "sexual harassment" over every little misunderstanding. It's not that I don't believe that we should have laws against rape and sexual harassment, but some women merely like to make their own problems.
In hindsight, it brings to mind some of the frivolous and malicious allegations that women make against men for unfounded cases of sexual harassment. For example, nowadays if a man accidentally calls a woman "honey" in his place of employment, she could bring a sexual harassment complaint against him despite that his actions were completely benign.
On the other hand, whenever a female co-worker pries into a male co-worker's love life and asks him questions that are strongly intrusive and inconsiderate on her part to ask, somehow it is fair game for this woman and she can do no wrong according to the sexual-harassment policies in her office. It's like one major double standard that needs to be fixed.
If a man wants to have a conversation about his love life or any other kind of personal business of his with a co-worker, he will talk about it on his own volition. However, whenever a female co-worker asks him if he has a girlfriend or the likes, it's a no-win situation for him. It's even more offensive if she asks him why he never got married. How can someone really answer a question like that? It's more an insult than a question.
If a man tells his female co-worker to mind her own business, then she gets easily offended and acts as though he is the one being rude and inconsiderate with her. You have to figure that people like her get easily offended whenever a man refuses to answer her stupid, unanswerable questions only because she wants to be offended. It's like a woe-is-me sort of complex with her.
If a female co-worker is married and has a family, then you cannot help but question why she would need to be asking such personal questions about what you do outside your work hours. Does she have such a miserable marriage and family life? These women like to get in everyone's face.
If a female co-worker has a sinister smile on her face when she does ask you about your love life, then you cannot help but suspect that she is doing so to be derisive with you rather than merely looking to make small talk with you. If she asks you if you have a girlfriend and you answer "no," then you know that she is making fun of you once she starts in with her questions about why you don't have a girlfriend.
There is no way to answer such an intrusive question without feeling reluctant and embarrassed, and perhaps the man being asked that question may not even have an answer to it. The fact of the matter is that his female co-worker shouldn't be asking such questions to begin with, because then she is invading his space and showing nothing but disrespect and contempt for his privacy.
You may even notice that these female urchins always seem to come out of the woodwork in everyone's place of employment on Saint Valentine's Day. You have to suspect that they have so very little going on in their own lives that they feel that they have to go poking their noses into other people's personal business to feel whole about themselves.
It is not only women who engage in this deplorable behavior but certain men as well. Usually married men whose marriages are skating on thin ice.
At the end of the day, these types of co-workers produce undesirable and even hostile work environments for others. Therefore, I would have to say that whenever a woman pries into a man's love life or any other sort of personal business of that nature, she is committing reverse sexual harassment; and our nation's laws should punish such behavior.
My experiences with these kinds of people is that whenever I shut them down, they get belligerent with me as though I owe them something to which they were never entitled in the first place. You have to question what part of "mind your own business" do these people not understand? They don't belong in professional office environments. They belong in job positions that take them out of contact with everyone.
What is particularly annoying about these individuals, especially female ones, is that you have to suspect that they probably believe that you don't have a girlfriend or wife before they ask you the question about your love life. Therefore, it would only stand to reason that their choice to ask you such questions is done with the sole purpose of mocking you in some way or another. Because of it, their behavior cannot be interpreted as anything other than sexual harassment.
Some of you out there reading my article may believe that my concerns here are nothing more than pet peeves. However, if you have ever been in this type of situation, you have to realize that these people are not trying to befriend you in any way. They're really fishing for anything that they think they can use against you. For that reason, such actions should be deemed to be sexual harassment under the letter of the law.
According to artificial intelligence ("AI") in the Google browser, such behavior is considered to be sexual harassment here in the United States. However, I have not yet come across actual text from a law book that says so. Therefore, if any of you bright legal minds out there know of any statutory code that prohibits co-workers from asking about your love life or relationship status, then provide me a link to it in the comments section below. I'd be interested.
Finding love is complicated enough here in the United States. Nobody, especially a man, needs for some female co-worker who is already married to be asking him questions about topics that he doesn't even discuss with his relatives. It's worse when such a female co-worker pounds the subject to death after you've made it clear to her that you do not wish to discuss it with her.
When a female co-worker makes a snide remark to a man in her office like, "Is that why you don't have a girlfriend?," she definitely should be cited for reverse sexual harassment. Chances are she doesn't really know what this man does outside the office. Therefore, such a snide remark is nothing less than an insult and should be treated as such.
Even when a complete stranger who happens to be a woman makes such a snide comment, she's still overstepping her boundaries. It could explain why misogyny has become so common throughout American society. I'm not condoning misogyny, but I still believe that we should look into the root causes of it and identify them.
If a male co-worker were to call a woman in his office a fat pig that repels all men away from her, she'd probably lodge a complaint of sexual harassment against him. Then he would probably be fired. Therefore, why is it perfectly fine for women to behave this way with their male co-workers? It shouldn't be.
In his video below, YouTuber Dapper Dev talks about how scarce true love is anymore here in our nation. So, why would any male employee wish to share the intimate details of his love life with a female co-worker that he may not even be friendly with in the first place? These women need to get a life and stop pushing their stupid, nosy, unanswerable questions at men who don't want to answer them.
YouTuber Dapper Dev Describes The Hardships American Men Encounter In Searching For True Love
In the American culture, I find it so bizarre how society puts so much emphasis on the importance of relationships and marriage when many people here in our culture have lost their ability to express true love in their romantic endeavors. It's one big hypocrisy.
Let's keep intrusive inquiries about people's relationship status out of our office environments here in the United States. Everyone should have a healthy, work environment free of any forms of sexual harassment, including reverse sexual harassment.
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