Ahh lovely I too know the pain of a special needs Christmas, I share most of the same issues as you and I know how hard it can be - when all you want is to make them have the same experiences we had as children, for them to experience the joy, magic and wonder of Christmas.

It can be so hard but remember the beauty of our children, when they enjoy something their joy is pure and untainted - they appreciate different things and there's a clear simple beauty in that.

Love ya hun keep up the good work and speak soon :D