Hi Jessica, the paradox is that self-acceptance arises automatically when you stop trying to accept yourself forcibly. Self-acceptance is the most natural state of being because life inherently is in full acceptance of itself. It’s only the negative momentum generated in the mind that creates the idea of self-hatred (mostly out of patterns of comparison).
When the mind’s momentum reduces, and the cloud of past negative energy is released, you realize that you naturally don’t feel self-hatred in your being – in other words your being is already free of self-hatred, you don’t have to force it. So how to reduce the momentum of the mind? Just remove the foot from the accelerator and the car comes to a halt on its own, the way to remove your foot from the accelerator of the mind is just stay as a space of relaxed awareness allowing the “motor” of your mind to slow down and finally ebb away in force. After this we don't really feel the need to interfere in anything.