Thanks for this elaborate and insightful comment ;)

Yes, "stand up for ourselves when we realise they misunderstood our kindness for weakness".
And doing that is exactly what people expect least because they never came to see this type of kindness. Their entire life they were conditioned to think that when they are too kind people will exploit that kindness, As a defense mechanism people will then start causing others that which they fear most, like "the best way to not get hurt is to hurt others" :/