As human beings we have always hated weakness. We reject and deny it once it is felt. What is more frightening than feeling weak is the thought of others discovering about our weakness, how they would think of us, and how they might take advantage of our weakness.
The fact is everybody basically a combination of weaknesses and strengths; no body is free of weakness as no body has been born superior to his fellow human beings. The wholeness of every human being is comprised of strength and weakness, both integrated to produce such a diversifiable entity.
What eventually makes someone weak and another not weak depends on which aspects of himself that he capitalizes on and through which perspective he judges himself.
Weak people give more attention to their weakness, feel guilty about it, and compare their weaknesses to the strengths of others. Rejecting, condemning and blaming themselves of worthlessness, which leave them with no room to realize their strength, which in turn leads to more weakness and powerlessness. Rejection of one’s weakness is merely rejecting of part of who you are and a crack in your wholeness. A greater part of weakness comes from the rejection of the smaller part.
Strong people I have met through out my life have either one of these:
- They accept their weakness in an ego-free manner focusing on what they can do.
- They have different standards which make the same thing considered weakness by others feels normal to them.
- They are not even aware of their weakness. And those who are make the best of their strengths.
As an example; someone who is not innately charismatic is weak when it comes to influence or leadership. If he keeps resenting his specific weakness he would not be able to find where his real strength lies, for another one who is charismatic but not good with planning he should capitalize on his innate powers rather than resenting being a bad planner.
Another example; I have seen a lot of people who believe that weakness includes the inability to control other family members. Decide for them. Plan their lives. If they failed to achieve this they would feel weak and stop trusting themselves. Leading to more weakness, while those who succeed in controlling other family members believe they are strong while they waste their energy that made them less good at other aspects of life. Not to mention the bad effects they leave on family members.
But actually shifting from weakness to strength is not that simple. You need to accept your weakness, be in alignment with, feel no sorry about, and allow it. Then the space is there for innate strength to emerge. Even people who feel physically weak when accept their weakness to the point it is no longer bothering them, they feel relieved, more powerful and in control; which in turn gives them the opportunity to work on their strength.
When fear interferes, telling you that you will not be competent in situations that need strength. Remind yourself that you can’t become strong by blaming your weakness; it helps no one feeling weak all time. Changing your attitude is what brings about different results.
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