When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Accept that you don’t have the power to make someone else change their mind. Say to yourself, “I cannot change that person. He/she will stay that way for the rest of their life here.” Good. Now, even though you don’t have the power to change someone else, you are a powerful being. You have the power to change your mind about that person. What are they really trying to tell you?
Everything is either an expression of love or a call for love.
When struggling with a relationship, take a step back and try to see the real message behind what the other person is doing or saying. Don’t pay too much attention to the details of the disagreement. They are either trying to express love, or asking for love. When someone expresses love to you, it will most likely come in a way that is enjoyable and well accepted. When someone calls for love, it is often expressed in a way that is hurtful. Think of children acting up to get attention. They are not doing it just for the fun of it, or because they are rotten. They are asking for love.
In adult relationships, family, work, friendships, we can’t often just stop the other person that is calling for love and give them a hug. It would, in most cases, be inappropriate or backfire in some way. But we can express love silently. They are still that child that didn’t get enough love and are acting out now in a struggle to get that love. Express love to the child in that person silently.