Dear, marriage is beautiful, if you ask me. I’ve always heard people say words about marriage like “it’s been hell on earth few weeks after our wedding”. People see marriage the wrong way. It is the sweetest institution you’ll ever attend in your life time.
I was having a counseling session with some women who had problems with their husbands and one of them said, “I expected my marriage to be the greatest experience I would ever have. We were both interested in giving each other the best of what we could offer, but what I knew already about marital relationships wasn’t enough to fill the gap I would later encounter”.
Some women, mostly those with a weak value system, wake up in the morning with a good vibe to carry out their duties as wife. Once her husband goes to work and the kids are gone to school, the house stares at her with all the undone dishes, dirty clothes and every chore she has to do. Most times, she gets confused on what to do first. In the midst of her confusion her best friend pays a visit, she then abandons some things and the morning discussion forum is declared open.
After several hours of chit-chatting, she takes a desperate look at the clock and screams “Oh my God, its twelve noon”. Taking a quick rush to the kitchen, finds out the soup she was warming several hours past is burnt, and she throws up her two hands on her head in despair. Her friend says, “It’s time to go dear, please give me a little stroll”! In the fear of not wanting to say no and get her friend hurt, she takes a short stroll, waves a bye to her and run back to the house.
Oh my goodness, is this two o’clock already? It’s impossible. When the kids come home at three o’clock, she screams at them as a result of her confused state. She quickly prepares their lunch and starts the house chores which she skipped in the morning for a chit-chat. The kids are playing around the house happily and she shouts at them and threatens to use the whip on them if they would not keep quiet.
“Darling will soon be back from work”, she whispers to herself frightfully. Dinner is not done yet, and it’s five in the evening. She quickly takes a ride to the market, and unfortunately, she gets held by the traffic. Luckily she beats the traffic and gets all that she would need for cooking. Her husband returns tired from the day’s work and she takes a deep breath, “thank God dinner is ready”, but she’s as tired as a man who worked carrying heavy bricks a whole day for building a house. Now she’s too tired to be available to him. When he makes advances at her, she gives a poor response by saying “I had a stressful day”. Her husband may feel lonely or rejected, recalling all the challenges he had gone through during the day. If this occurs more than twice, and the man being faithful to his wife, he begins to lose feelings that a husband should have for his wife naturally, and for most men, when they do not get what they rightfully desire from their wives, they go outside to get it. This is a point where cracks appear on the walls of the marital relationships of most women.
This is one of the foundations of misunderstanding in most marriages. Every man needs a woman who would plan her day and take her time to execute her plan successfully, to avoid lapses in the later run. It is in the hands of every woman to build her home and also to destroy it.