You simply cannot.
Even your children are not your property. You can't do with them what you will. You cannot. That is why if you maltreat your child, welfare services will take the child off you. They don't care that you carried the child for 9 months and spent 100 hours in labour. Nobody gives a shit about that. You can't treat people like you bought them at Aswani market.
This feeling of ownership is why husbands will beat their wives, why madams will beat their house helps and why a mother will put pepper in her daughter's vagina because she thinks she has 'started following boys'. You think you own them. You can't own a human being. This is 2018. Slavery was abolished a long time ago. Get with the times.
Look for other methods to correct wrongs but you cannot beat someone blue black because the person came home late. It is appalling. It changes nothing.
Beat. Beat. Beat. Any thing, beat. Any infraction, beat. God. If you've been doing something for so long and there's no change, try something else. Our parents beat nonsense and bastard out of us, what changed exactly? The whole world is advancing. We can't even get simple things right. You would have thought with all the beatings we got, Nigeria would have been a super power by now.
I know some people will come here and say "My father beat me and I didn't die", "My mother beat me and I'm still here".
Yes, you're still here. But did you change for the better?