When you look at these two birds you may ask : This is a weird combination." Well, maybe it is but let me explain:
Peacock:
If you look at kids that's under the age of 13 years old. They are full of life. They LOVE to be in the spotlight. They love making jokes. For example: When I'm spending time with my children, all the small stuff for them is funny. They bring out color in our lives. When I had a hard day at work I can't wait to see them because they help me relax and enjoy life again. They can't wait to tell us how their day was. Yesterday we went to a church"braai". We only new a few people but the rest were strangers. At a stage they played games with all the people and children, I was watching them from a distance. My children didn't know anyone but yet they joined the fun, they were dancing and made all funny moves but did not care about anyone around them, what they may think or not. They know who they are, they know that we are there and that we will always support them. They give out a color of joy, happiness and you can't help but to join in. The peacock is the same. He wants everyone to see him, he wants the shine. But most of all he knows who he is no matter what people or other birds think of him. His persona is simple and uncomplicated. When I look at my kids they are simple and uncomplicated. Life is simple and uncomplicated.
Ostrich:
When you look at a ostrich what do you see? His colors aren't so great as a peacock. He's black, brown and white . This is the same as life. We go through hardships, struggles and try to make life work for us. We lose our color some where. Maybe we lose it when friends are turning on you or your dreams didn't come true. We start living like the ostrich, with our head under the ground. We think people don't notice us anymore. But we forget our children see us. When I have a day that has really been hard, my oldest daughter will come up to me and ask: " mommy whats wrong, you look sad", I will say I'm okay but she'll say something is wrong she can see it. She is only 7 years old. My 4 year old will also ask: "mommy is everything okay?" We underestimate our children, they are so sensitive. They can't understand the sadness that we carry or the stress that we have to deal with. But we have to make a choice.
The ostrich is in his own world, he fades away in the colors of his surroundings, he doesn't want people close to him. Sometimes we do the same even with our children. We just go through the day without thinking of what made our color fade away.
In my previous blog I shared that our children do what they see us do. My children teached me that life didn't change, I did. I choose to be more serious, I choose to let my colors fade away. I choose to miss the small miracles in life.
Yesterday while I was watching my children dancing and running around I realized that I want to be like that again. I want to show and teach my girls that even though life is hard sometimes that you can have fun. Time is in our hands to make the most of it!
So what do you choose? What do you choose when you think of our children?
Peacock or ostrich?
Our children is the next generation that needs to keep their color.
* We can only help them by supporting them.
* We can teach them to keep hope in all situations.
* To accept themselves for who they are, their talents,their uniqueness.
* To keep an positive attitude.
* Last but not least to set personal goals and teach them to work towards it.
I hope this will encourage you to focus on who you are and who you are to you child. You are their HERO!
