Every married couple would expect their household to be lasting until death separates. When the tempest came to hit the ark many couples gave up the situation and decided to separate. Very understandable when problems come and go, the couple chose the way to get divorced to stop the crisis that happened. Until finally the hammer thump Hakim also meluluhlantakan heart, especially very sad feeling the baby faces the reality of why their parents should divorce. But had it occurred to parents if they were divorced would be very hurt feelings and fertilize sadness in the hearts of their sons? Many couples consider divorce the only solution for the good of the child than they should watch their parents fight every day.
This is the sad story of an 11-year-old boy. Bagas grows in a family environment that is not harmonious since the age of 5 years. At the age of that Bagas must accept the fact his parents divorced. Bagas sister came with Bagas's mother. While Bagas itself taken care of by his father (Bimo). Two years after the divorce, Bimo remarried with my colleague (Arin). Arin, who was matured but still single, graciously accepted Bimo and Bagas as part of his life. Initially, their marriage went smoothly. When entering the 2nd year, Arin and Bimo both show their true character. Arin's character is often jutek and firmly make 'Bimo' Bimo, especially Bagas.
Although according to Arin attitude that he showed it for the good of Bagas that he grows into a disciplined and independent children, but still his behavior was making Bagas uncomfortable. Bagas often scolded Arin if late from school. Not to mention when Bagas wet the bed, Arin is not furious. Ben often counseled Arin that he wanted to be a little more patient with a boy as old as Bagas. It seems that Arin can not accept her husband's advice. He still acts like that. From her marriage Arin had no children. Arin should be able to be more motherly and start learning to love Bagas like her own child. When Arin ventured he always said that his assertive attitude was precisely because unfortunately at Bagas. Just unfortunate Arin can not explore the feelings of Bagas who still need a lot of guidance, especially he had the trauma of his parents divorce first.
Bagas always cried when calling his mother. Arin's maid often sheds tears when hearing Bagas confide in her mother "Mama why divorce with daddy?" Always the question that Bagas said. He told how sad and unhappy he was living with his father and stepmother. Several years of heartache, Bagas grows into a rebel child. The discipline applied by Arin was not attached to Bagas. He even deliberately play to the cafe all day after school. Knowing Bagas is not home yet, Arin is furious. While in the office almost every day Arin checks the existence of Bagas at home. Arin's anger against Bagas is what makes Bimo do not like the character of his wife who can not be gentle towards Bagas. That's where Arin's family comes from. Almost every day Arin and Bimo had a great fight. Both mutually defend their opinions.
Bimo felt he had picked the wrong wife. Arin's rough attitude towards Bagas makes Bimo disappear sympathetic. From then on Bimo looked for comfort outside. At the same time Bimo finds his ex-girlfriend (Hanum). Their relationship was more familiar. Domestic ruins Arin and Bimo increasingly make mental Bagas getting worse. The peak of Bagas disappointment occurred when Bimo declared to divorce Arin and marry Hanum. Bagas feels his nightmare is haunting again. The effects of his frustration, who would have thought such a small boy and then desperate guzzling insect poison in his room! Yet God still saved the life of Bagas. After the incident Bimo realized that his divorce with Arin actually makes the heart of Bagas increasingly destroyed. But what can make, Bimo decision has been unanimous. Her divorce with Arin was inevitable. Now Arin no longer hear the story of Bagas after divorce with Ben. From the story of the neighbors, Bagas life increasingly neglected by the presence of 3 mama in his home. New mama Bagas is too indifferent to Bagas.
What a pity Bagas fate. I do not know what will happen when the adult Bagas behavior later witnessed his father has 2x divorced. It is unfortunate attitude of Bagas father who can not give understanding to Arin to be a good mother for Bagas. Similarly, Arin, he does not want to learn how to deal with a child with the trauma of his parents divorce. If Arin and Bimo could survive to save their marriage, maybe life Bagas would be normal like other boys his age. Unimaginable load the mind of a child as old as Bagas who desperate to drink insect poison to end his life. Hopefully the story of Bagas can inspire us parents to think a thousand times when deciding divorce. Even if the divorce is justified, but whether we have time to think about how the impact to grow the flower of our hearts. Divorce may be considered the single best decision for couples who feel no longer find a way out of their conflict. If the divorce decision is considered to be unanimous, then be prepared to see how sadness, disappointment and lara will prolong the life of the child. In fact, the child is always a victim due to separation of both parents. No child can accept the facts of why their papa and mama are separated.
therefore we as parents should be role models for a child