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Every decent young man and woman desires to have a healthy, productive, sustainable and godly relationship. Not just because of the beautiful adjectives that carefully describes it but for many other reasons. It is of my Opinion that any decent man or woman who ventures into a relationship goes into that relationship with a mindset that there is a possibility of making he or she your life partner. Because if there is no such notion, then why venture into it?? There are obviously better things that you can occupy your time with. So if you are in a relationship with a lady or a man who you do not intend to spend the rest of your life with, then this post isn't really for your kind of relationship.
This post is to give insights to the qualities that one should look out for when opting to go into a serious and decent relationship that will lead to Marriage.
In this exposé, i will be addressing the ladies first on what to look out for in a man before saying Yes to him and then i will move on to address the gentlemen on what to look out for in a woman before going for her.
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Ladies: if a man doesn't possess the following qualities, please never say Yes to him.
The man must be God-fearing.
The man must be able to submit to an earthly authority for mentorship, for guidance and for correction
He must be able to show you clearly the authority figure that is in his life (His Mentor, someone he can submit himself to and listen to)
- The man must have passion for You
Passion is an adjective that qualifies the extent of love he has for you.
Any man who doesn't have passion for his wife will be Unfaithful
- He must be responsible
What does it mean to be responsible??
it means to be aware or to take Cognisance of the Cost dimension of life.
It is irresponsibility that produces laziness. You must learn to be an Initiator, not just a recipient. Responsibility is not having a car or having a house, it is the willingness to fulfill the cost dimension of Life.
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Gentlemen: if a woman doesn't have the following qualities, please don't go for her.
- She must be God-fearing
A woman who is not God-fearing will have her husband and will have her sponsor.
The average lady still has afiliation with her past relationships, even in her marital home.
- A woman who is submissive to the man at all times.
When ladies refuse to submit to their husbands and they say he is not "man enough". The bible did not ask you to submit to "man enough" men. Even though submission is hard, you need the holyspirit to help you submit in faith. The submission starts from the relationship, not just when you are married. So you ensure you don't get married to a man who does not submit to God.
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- She must be sacrificial and hospitable
if she doesn't know how to give you gifts and good stuffs, then have a rethink.
- The Physical Factor (Her outward beauty)
Notice the order in which the features comes, the physical factor is the last thing on the list.
More on responsibility
1st Timothy 5 vs 8
But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an Unbeliever
♤♤Responsibility is a burden of obligation over someone or something. It is an awareness of Consequences.
♧♧The reason why many people are not responsible is because of their indecision over being successful
How one knows that you have decided to be successful(responsible)
No excuses (stop making excuses)
Admit your mistakes
Stop blaming other people for your problems
when you make a decision to be successful, you stop being a small child.
I hope you enjoyed this session and the amazing insights it has provided. Feel free to air your opinion by commenting, your upvotes and resteems will also be appreciated. God bless.