We all know how the world has become now. Intimate relationship being rampant, non virgins being hailed, virgins being look down and ridicule against. But deep down in our heart, we all know that premarital sex is wrong and very wrong.
There has been many claims that someone cant have a relationship without sex. I want to let you know that they are very wrong. People are still having relationship without sex, it may not be easy and it may be easy, but its also possible. Whether you are virgin or not, you can still maintain a relationship without sex.
What is a relationship;
the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other. : a romantic or sexual friendship between two people. : the way in which two or more people or things are connected.
Why did i get into a relationship?.
This is a personal question you should always ask and remind your self's, people get into relationships with reasons best know to them,but the question is ! "your relation pleasing to God",are you living an healthy relationship?
Steps that can help you keep and maintain your relationship without sex.
● Never try to be in secluded place with an opposite sex. It give room to kissing, touching and caressing which may lead to sex. And cos, it is said that when two opposite sex are alone or secluded in a place, the third of them is Satan which will definitely try to influence them to commit fornication. If you are to see each other, try meet in an open place like restaurant, park or any open place that you can see people and people can see you.
● Don't visit your boyfriend house. I know this may sound harsh to some people but its the damn truth. 90% of intimacy usually take place when a girl visit her guy or spend the night or weekend there. But if you are to go, go with a trusted friend, relative or female siblings. With that, the chance of the guy trying to have sex wit you will reduce greatly. And also don't make it to be frequent.
● It was said that an idle mind is the devil workshop. Try to engage your hands in something and put off the feeling of having sex in your mind. Although, the feeling do come once in a while, but you can put it down. Reading some books, non romantic novels, Holy Books, playing TV game and many other things can make you put off sexual feeling from your mind.
● Get married on time. Its better for you to marry on time and save yourself the anger of God than to be engaging in premarital and then invoke the anger of God on you.
● last but not the least, have the fear of God. You may not be able to see him, bt remember that he see you and he is present anywhere you are. You cannot have sex in front of your parent. So then, if you cant do it in their present, while do it in presence of Almighty God. When we have this in our mind, i think many sins committed will be reduce drastically.
This epistle may be long but its worth it.