FOR MEN: Relationships and wrong priorities

When we were a lot younger, our choices for a woman in our lives were based on physiological attributes, mine was even funny.

I felt the woman i was going to meet would be dark in complexion, she must be of the yoruba tribe in Nigeria, she must be big breasted(Lord, show me mercy), has a huge ass and with amazing curves. Just imagine my life!!!

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The older i became and with the right company and godly perspective, a lot began to drop from my “childish list”, my priorities began to change and with plenty ups and downs in my emotional life i came to a point where i understood the essence of life and it has actually worked for me, yes i’m in love and i am at peace.

Okay, away from me... Stats has shown that most people are very unhappy in their relationships because of certain wrong priorities.

Mr A always wanted a big boobed lady, he has gotten her, yet after sometime, he wants more and he is no more happy.

Mr B likes them slender and yet he isn’t happy.

Mr C loves them thick and yet thickness has thickened his peace and it is no more flowing like a river.

Am i saying your choices for a lady’s physical attribute ain’t necessary? Not at all, whatever that works for you and also makes you sleep well at night, go for it.

But life lessons has taught me these:

A woman’s bodily features will never give you lasting satisfaction
Her physiology won’t make you better
Her beauty won’t even give you peace
Her curves doesn’t make you a covenant child of God, neither will her ass give you any assurance.

What should Men prioritize?

Godliness: If she isn’t godly, she’s not a risk worth taking, it is only the fear of God that can keep you both, not love, not sex and not endowments.
Capacity for building: When God made Eve for Adam, He wanted a helper for Adam. So in simpler terms, if Adam was an Engineer operating at 45%, having Eve in His life led to so much improvement that takes him up to 65-80% and they keep getting better and vice versa.
Unity of purpose: If you as a man don’t know your purpose for living, forget relationship, you’ll ruin any woman that comes your way. Same way a man shouldn’t seek a woman without purpose. Now, if you both know your purpose, can it be blended together? Does it compliment one another? You can’t be heading to Kano state, Nigeria and enter a bus going to Obudu, Cross river state. Find unity of purpose.
The rest can now follow:
Love(very important), you obviously shouldn’t marry who you don’t love, tolerance, taking responsibility, body physiology, respect, etc

Let me conclude.
The purpose for living is to get better, improve the lives of people around you, live fully, die empty, and make heaven, anything outside that might lead to frustration.

Humorously i’d end like this:

Dear Brother,
That you serve a covenant keeping God and have a Blessed assurance in Jesus Christ doesn’t mean you should prioritize CURVEnant sisters with ASSurance over content. If you do, you may end up with pains of regret and you will be doing a reprise of King Solomon’s words on Key F# that “All things(ass, boobs and all) are all vanity upon vanity."

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Enjoy your chilly saturday.
Benny Walker