A principle is a moral rule or a strong belief that influences your action – A Learner’s English Dictionary. There are always tested and approved moral norms that help to guide an established institution. Christian marriage as an institution has its own principles working out the desired goals. This concept when acquired will surely help couples register marital success at the end. Marriage is all about you and not choice, stop blaming each other.
Marriage perhaps is one of the first human institutions and relationships established by the Almighty creator Himself for the necessity of companionship. Inspite of the hardship and crisis that crippled in as a result of our first parents disobedience to God, their marriage survived to account for the procreation of the humankind today.
It will be recalled that the nature of man is both spiritual (invisible nature) and physical (of visible human nature) hence his challenges sometimes have some unseen spiritual influences behind them. The marital challenges are not exempted from this influence but God the originator of this institution also made provisions for their solutions. Man can not be successful in any human venture without God. Ironically, man’s fellowship with God was broken by rebellion and transgression hence perfection in all human affairs can not be achieved humanly but through the help of the divine. The man’s bane is only the sore relationship with his maker.
Therefore, the success of any marriage depends a lot on the family’s fellowship with god, the divine. He knows all the problems and also has all the solutions to the challenges affecting marital unions. Get this mind-set to register successful married life.
For the greatest responsibility for successful life is the mind development and exploration. Develop good praying habit in the mind .
God has the power to guide, defend, release, instruct and direct. He equally has the ability to illuminate and liberate in times of needs. Involve the divine and the solution to whatever brings discomfort will manifest through His grace in due time.
It is noteworthy at this point to mention that success in marriage as in any other profession or human venture is not a matter of chance, but it is a matter of choice. While chance is a cheer luck which does hardly exist, it only exists in the words of failures; choice is giving diligence, serious hardwork and determination to achieve good results in the face of odds with strong decision and rugged determination.
Resolve by your actions and input to make your marriage succeed no matter the odds working against it. Remember that poverty, barrenness, sickness, suspicion, distrust, extended family bonds, or other seemingly problems are challenges that can destroy marital unions. Work against them because you have only one home to relax and get peace. Fall back to it when the outside pressures are too hot to bear. Courage!
It is adviseable to identify with God through our reliable partner and friend: - the Holy Spirit, our comforter to carry on in our homes. The symbolic names of the Holy Spirit denotes His influences in times of tremendous needs. Such denotations as the power of God, the wind or breath of life, the fire, the flowing water, the dew from heaven, the oil, the seal of God offers helps to spouses in times of needs.
Therefore, in times of tiredness, when the strength to carry on together in marital union is gone due to life challenges and realities of togetherness revealing individuals human weaknesses; employ the power of the Holy Spirit to endure to the end. Disregard the enemy’s tool to quit. In times of suffocation, close to being smothered due to the heat and hurt of human frailties; beckon on the Spirit of God to supply His breathe and wind of true life into the union and soon you (the couple) will be revived.
In times of darkness and coldness caused the uncertainties; call on the Holy Spirit as your senior partner to provide His fire and His warmness by kindling His gentle solution in the minds through thought providing insights in the souls of the spouses or their helpers. In times of dryness as a result of exhaustion or being spent, employ the oil of the Holy Ghost to smoothen the rough and rusted edges of the marital relations. In the moment of dirtness that can occur due to usage, in forms of errors; mistakes, wounds or hurts; employ the cleansing and purifying water of the Holy Spirit to cleanse, renew the union and refresh the relationship.
Again, in moments of worries, anxieties and stress that are products of failures, disagreements and imperfections; call on the Holy Ghost to provide the dews from heaven and bestow His blessings. In times of agreement and smoothness; beckon on the Holy Spirit to come with His divine and supreme powers to endow His seal.
Work with join dugged determination to achieve success in your marital togetherness.
In summary here, the author submits that, for any marital union to be truly successful, the couple must allow the Holy Spirit of God to work in the them, with them and through them by their total submission to God in sincerity through all their marital union life. Such individuals making these sacrifices will truly be fulfilled without lost of anything expect failure and regrets for their actions. Their success will be divinely approved and supremely achieved.
Marital union, it will be recalled is a union of total selfless – giving and sacrificial services hence the guidance, instruction, illumination and liberation of the Spirit of God is actually needed. He will stimulate and strengthen the inner-man or the soulical man to renewal and regeneration that will tiredlessly keep the relationship alive. He helps the couples discharge their duties and play their individual roles selflessly. The Holy Spirit makes us responsive to our obligations in accordance to God’s will and purpose for our individual togetherness.
It suffices to say that God’s will and purpose for every marital union differs hence no two marital unions are very the same. Everyone is very unique. Make your own marriage or marital union successful by fulfilling the purpose of your God given assignment and not your cultural or customary or traditional demands; Don’t every rely on your wisdom, understanding or knowledge. Let the Holy Spirit lead you into marital satisfaction and fulfillments in your homes. Amen. Every family is special and unique, therefore, don’t compare yourself to any other person and do not copy from any family’s style or method. You can’t fit in properly because there are well pronounced individual differences in human nature and individuals make up families.
