As a Christian, you take in the fruits of the spirit that expresses a lot and affect others around you. A lot of persons find it very difficult to be subject to someone else, they find it difficult to be the one apologizing and making things work out. They just feel, it is not in my place to take the first step.
If you lack humility in your relationship and marriage, you will be having a lot of avoidable problems. Okay, let me think! The saying: pride goes before a fall, does this mean we should bring ourselves so low and be stepped on?...Yeah, I am right that is what you are probably thinking.
Pride is totally different from high self esteem. Pride is when you are too big to do what the "ordinary" does. That is not high self esteem, that is a feeling of, hey! I can't do this because I am too big to do it.
Probably, it is; I am too big to say sorry or I am too big to sweep the ground or I am too big to run that errand..And this is the attitude a lot of people, both male and female carry into a relationship and then into marriage.
Once you ever feel too big to say sorry to your spouse just get ready to always have unnecessary issues, quarrels, insults and then violence. The word sorry is so powerful. Able to prevent what could be a tragedy. Just a simple sorry can turn the wrath of a person.
And that is why GOD loved King David. He was a king that knew who the greater King was. Whenever he did anything wrong, he was ready to fall down flat and seek mercy.
You see a lot of couples, who feel saying sorry is letting down your guards, it means you are less of a person. That is the devil telling you lies.
If you want your relationship and marriage to work, learn the habit of saying sorry, it works magic. Whenever there is an argument or an issue rising up, just say sorry and see what would have become a mighty issue become so little and settled.