Research has found that people who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications.
You CAN'T get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to CONTROL YOUR REACTIONS.
#what is Anger
According to Oxford dictionary, Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something, usually combined with an urge to harm.
As we know, ANGER itself doesn't stand alone, it's not THEORETICAL, it's very PRACTICAL. What makes one notice an attitude depicting ANGER, is the ACTION or "ACTING" that is being materialized.
Therefore on this backdrop that has been established, we see that when that dreadful feeling takes hold of a person, there start to be what I call "unbargained IDEAS Popping".
These ideas are mostly destructive when activated or set in motion. eg.the impulse to hit when hitten.
One thing to note though is that everyone has this in him or her. It doesn't make u an evil person. What matters is whether you yield to that tempting and, at-the-very-point-very-correct-and-right prompting.
Lets all take an objective look at this historic figure. Late Icon Nelson Mandela of South African.
Now before we continue, let me give us a brief biography of him.
Late Nelson Mandela of South African: a lawyer and Human Rights activist, fought for his country with a pen rather than a sword. His people were slaughtered and butchered.
Gunned down like dogs on the street and denied every decent and equal right with the white minorities then in power.
Now NOTE, the black majority and white minorities were 78% to 22% in ratio.
This man in question was thrown into prison. Mind you, it wasn't a casual stay in that depressing confinement, it was for 28 infant-to-an-adult long years. His marriage was in shambles as a result of this and the emotional and psychological trauma involved too. He lost everything... well almost everything, except his self control. This traumatic experience is enough to justify a befitting revenge when he go out, especially when he became president.
What happened later, I guess we all know the story.
He would not allow the barbaric attitudes of his then oppressors and tormentors to dictate his life and pattern, most especially, his actions. He lived above it. He proved that he was better. He knew that anger leads to unforgiveness, and in turn unforgiveness makes people have influence and control over you.
Truth is, anyone that can influence your emotions, have total control over you. Don't allow anyone have this kind of power over you, it's too much power to be given away just like that (talking about Anger).
Now talking about unforgiveness, I'll say that it's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Hahaha... Can you sincerely imagine that?! Oh no! I won't advice on that.
Anger has done damages on an epic level in our society and world at large,Broken marriages, broken relationships, conflict leading to violence even wars. Lots of negativity this "ideology" has brought upon us.
The Bible says in proverbs, written by wise King Solomon.
Proverbs 15:1
"A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger"
Proverbs 15:18
A WRATHFUL man stirreth up STRIFE: but he that is SLOW to ANGER appeaseth strife.
Proverbs 16:32
He that is SLOW to ANGER is BETTER than the MIGHTY; and he that RULETH his SPIRIT than he that TAKETH a CITY.
Truth is, believe it or not, ANGER is a SPIRIT. Just like FEAR. fear as written in the Bible...
2 Timothy 1:7
For God hath not given us the SPIRIT of FEAR; but of POWER, and of LOVE, and of a SOUND MIND.
Now lets see how to manage this feeling.
##Finally How can we manage anger
The key is to have self control. And how can one possess this attribute? I'll tell you. If you don't have it, PRAY for it.
I could remember the well renowned BEN CARSON locked himself up in his room as a teenager and prayed for God to take away the spirit of anger and replace it with that of self control. He almost killed his Colleague in class because he has got this temper, stabbed him in his stomach, luckily the knife hit his belt head. Since then he said, he has been more in control of his temper.
The thing is, the feeling might not go away, but one will have control over it. You just choose to WALK AWAY instead of ACTING.
It's all a CHOICE. Choice to IGNORE or to IMPLODE and then EXPLODE.
Just pray for it. Pray for this self control.
Choose to walk away.
It pays at the end. There's no shame in walking away.
If you act on impulse, you might feel better at the time, but when that adrenaline burns out, you'll realize what really has been done. And there's no going back, the DID has already been DONE, what has BEEN SAID, has already BEEN SAID. No Take Backs. That's how bad it gets.
You could LOSE a whole family, your friends, business, and most especially your life.
Choose SELF CONTROL today. Let go of ANGER, the BIBLE calls it the FRUIT of the FLESH.
ANGER IS EVIL
ANGER IS A WICKED SPIRIT
FLEE FROM IT
THANKS FOR READING