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Men and women are different in many aspects, and for that matter if the things that stress them are quite different. Men are men and women are women, even though they have similarities but they also see and judge things differently.
When these two come into marriage out of the love the feel for each other, they face a big challenge of navigating through all those differences to create a strong, healthy and happy marriage. This is true to all married people. Love demands work, compromise and patient to blossom and to glow.
Then somewhere kids come in. Children are blessings, but they come with their challenges, and when they do not come to some it is a big problem too.
Both men and women wants children for many and different legitimate reasons. But one that is rear heard is, to prove their masculinity or feminism.
Having kids affects women in so many ways. But few men are actually aware of that. Most husband will just enjoy to become dads but that is the end of the story. If there's anything that will bother them, is the financial implications of rising their children. The only scars they suffer, affect their wallets and bank account.
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But for women it goes deeper than that. The effects are not only physical but also psychological. But as usual wives always speak less, even though they are notorious of being talkers. If wives aired everything in their deep private minds, most husbands would be scared of them. But what do women do, they cry and buried it in their hearts and minds. All their fears, pain, worries and opinions.
One of the many things that most women struggle with privately after having a child or children, is this, "Does my body still have the same appeal to my husband?"
Women become very worried about their bodies after giving birth. They feel like their husband's are just playing it cool, but their no longer feel attracted to them and their bodies as they did previously, before they had children. This thing may appear small in husbands minds, as they usually treat women issues as being petty issues.
To wives the struggle is real and strong, women try all they can to regain what they lost in the process of having children or a child. They will ask and try to implement all that they learn from girlfriends. If not girlfriends then is Mr Google, YouTube and other social media platforms. This is not safe neither healthy but it is exactly what desperate people do.
This is where I beseech wise husbands to step up, and assure their wives, that their just okay.
Assure your wife that she is still beautiful, attractive and desirable as she was before the gave birth to those wonderful and beautiful kids you have.
Let her hear more often. And mean it when you say it, let it come from your heart not just lips. Let your general daily actions confirm that too. Trust me, you will save her from big troubles, she may go through privately, in an effort to regain the body she had before she gave birth. Women do a lot of dangerous staffs to impress their husbands with their bodies.
If you're a wise husband hear me. She will never tell you, but that is the reality. And if there's anything worth of concern, work on finding a solution together. You may not go everywhere together but as long as she knows she has your support, she will feel loved in spite of the changes in her body.
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