We have all met someone who tends to feel offended by everything. It is very difficult to treat this type of person, since at any moment they can be annoyed by something that had never crossed our mind that could bother them.
The complicated thing is that many times they feel annoyed or uncomfortable due to facts or situations that do not really deserve it. Either by an insignificant joke, a small forgetfulness or by the use of a word that they find intolerable. Sometimes what exists is a state of extreme susceptibility. In others, you have simply assumed the habit of feeling offended by everything.
"Who does not know laughter is susceptible to know the pain, and this is even more complex."
-Javier Marías-
Both for those who feel that way, and for those around them, everything becomes very difficult. This attitude ends up blocking relationships with others, besides generating a lot of suffering, almost always in an unnecessary way. Why are there people who say they feel offended by everything? What to do in those cases?
The reasons to feel offended by everything
The feeling of offense occurs when we perceive that others treat us with depreciation and inferiority. Also when they do not recognize us, or do not recognize what we do. Certainly this offends, but, if we are sincere, it is the bread of every day.
However, for some people this type of situation is intolerable. They do not overlook it, but stop at it. Feeling offended by everything can be due to various causes. These are some of them:
Feeling of inferiority. When the self-esteem is not solid and there is not a strong ego, it is possible that somebody gets to feel offended by everything. It seems to him that others would like to constantly remind him that he is inferior. However, it is his complex that makes him feel this way.
Rigid thinking It corresponds to those who think that things should be said or done in only one way. When something does not meet those parameters, they feel that order has been broken and they are offended. In addition, they are usually very susceptible to attacks against their beliefs.
Egocentrism. Giving too much importance to the self makes us a little paranoid. We end up assuming that everything revolves around us and that others are always commenting, looking or pointing out what is ours.
It is advisable to be careful when dealing with issues such as religion, sexuality, political ideologies or nationalisms. They are themes that awaken all kinds of susceptibilities. Much more if someone is often offended by everything.
The offenses and their true importance
Many say: "Nobody offends you. It is you who is offended. " They are right. Everyone has the right to think, think and say what they consider. There is a limit, of course. Psychological violence is inadmissible. But between psychological violence and an opinion or attitude that we do not like, there is a long way to go. Nobody can live healthily and feel offended by everything at every moment.
What to do? These recommendations can help someone who feels offended by everything:
No one has offended you, only you have been upset. Maybe you think that others should think or act in a certain way. If they do not, what is wrong is your expectations, not what others do or say.
Allow people to be the way they are. No one has the right to mold the behavior of another person. Understand that we must accept others as they are, as well as demand that they accept us as we are.
No casual comment will change your life. People can say good or bad about you. But neither one nor the other is going to really change your life. What matters is how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself.
Learn to laugh at yourself. Do not take yourself so seriously. The only thing you get with that is to become "stretched out" and extremely susceptible to anything that affects your ego. Acting like this only hurts yourself and alienates others.
It is important that we learn to become a little impervious to the comments or attitudes of others. Feeling offended by everything only leads us to be in permanent conflict with others, most of the time for matters that do not matter.
