Ever since high school, I can remember being obsessed with my hair. I have thick and curly hair and usually spend about two hours to get it straight and smooth. It's just something that most people seem to agree about - if you have straight hair, you want it to be curly and if you have curly hair, you want to be straight. I have to admit that I'm never satisfied after a visit to the hair dressers as they never seem to listen to what I want. I would thank them and then spend the entire trip home cursing about what they have done to my hair, just to get home, wash it, and do it over myself.
You won't catch me outside of my house without perfect hair. I don't know why, but it is what it is.
So last night, we visited with a few friends. Like always, it took me a few hours to patch up my imperfections, perfect my hair and we then headed over. We sat outside on the balcony and with the humidity in the air, soon all of our perfect hair and make-up was gone.
One of the men started a conversation about his wife looking so beautiful when her hair curls up in the humidity and the question came up about why women will not accept compliments from their husbands and why they feel "ugly" if they don't look a certain way. This became a huge debate between the men and the women, each defending their reasons and explaining why they feel the way they feel.
To sum it up, it can be said that the men felt that they do not notice our imperfections and it doesn't bother them one bit. The women felt that, after having children and picking up a few pounds we no longer feel as beautiful as we could be or was before and that's the reason why we don't tend to accept compliments from our husbands when we don't feel pretty at that moment.
We then came to the conclusion that just as we don't notice our husbands' imperfections and that it doesn't make them less attractive to us, that it's the same for men.
After all said and done, we then took a group photo just the way we are and after a few tries, we came up with a perfect picture showing off all our imperfections. All of us being beautiful in our own way, unique and without any judgements.
Here we are from left to right... 
At the end of the day, it didn't matter whether our hair was frizzy or our make-up looked saggy, the fact is, we had a wonderful time and we enjoyed each others company...just the way we are.
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