I started maintaining a diary since I was 12 years old and was writing on a daily basis. I had never thought that anybody would find it or read it. One day I had to travel and left it in my grandmothers house. My aunt found it, read everything and sent it to my mother. You can imagine the rest of the story, especially when your mother isnt cool about you having random crushes!
I used my diary as a way to express things I couldnt say and things that bothered me. Therefore I had to find different ways to hide my diary, but didnt work out. My mother has found it every time and we ended up arguing. It was really frustrating, because I wanted my own space and privacy. I love writing and a diary was a way to express myself, but felt that I cant even do small thing as writing a diary without surveillance. Mostly in those times, when we didnt had internet and blogs. Everything we had was a pen and paper.
Yes I respected and trusted my parents, but that doesnt give them the right to read my diary, even if they care for me. So I bought a diary with a key chain and started writing in a language which only me at home knew, so that my parents won’t understand what I wrote. It was English! And finally the problem was solved. As I grew up, my mother stopped doing that and I wasnt bothered anymore.
Parents are naturally very concerned about their kids, and very curious about what is happening in their lives . But it can end up with the kids living a double life, they cant trust their parents anymore and have to hide everything to not be judged. Reading their diaries will likely do nothing but push them away more and make them want to tell less. Even if parents think, they should know everything about their children, this is an invasion of privacy. And where can they feel comfortable, if not in their own home!
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