INTRODUCTION
I have decided to write a post on what a perfect "man" in my eyes would be like. Following this post over the next few days will be my version of what a perfect relationship/marriage should be like. I hope that this post will help some of you out there or maybe give you a guidance on what to look for in the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Please know this is what I found from my personal experience with previous relationships & not necessarily what you should look for. Please feel free to comment below & give some tips & advice on what you think.
FIRST: Where you meet
Where you meet a person in my experience is one of the most important factors. Running into a stunning looking Italian Stallion in a downtown nightclub, might not be the best man to be your future husband. Also one of my experiences is meeting a guy at church & thinking he has all the good Christian traits that you have been looking for & that he is the "one", because NO sometimes they are the worst & might be just to good to be true.
I personally think that when you spend time on yourself doing the things YOU love, like reading a book in a cafe, going to a art gallery, going mountain biking or going to the gym. When you meet a nice man there where you love to spend your time, that man will most probably be interested in the same things you are & value the things that you love which is a BIG positive already.
But don't get me wrong sometimes you meet someone totally out of your comfort zone or somewhere you don't always go, & that could also be true love.
SECOND: The bad boy
I personally love guys that have a kind of an edge on them, that can be the bad boy you need. You know that feeling you get when you walk into a room full of people, with your man by your side & it feels like you can explode of pride & it feels like nothing can touch you, the whole room turning and looking at you and your man while you feel on top of the world & you can't believe that this man chose YOU. I think deep down in every girl/woman that is the way they want to feel every time they are with their man.
Well why should you settle for anything less than that feeling. We all need that bad boy to be strong when we are not in a good place, to always be on your side no matter the situation, to be protective over you & to worry about what you are feeling in your heart. The man that can make you feel sexy even when you are wearing a black plastic bag or when you are pregnant and about to pop with stretchmarks & swollen feet. He has to always make you feel sexy, pretty & beautiful.
THIRD: Ambition
Ladies a good man is a man that has ambition. You don't want a guy doing the bare minimum just survive. Coming home after work laying on the couch, playing games & watching sport channel while you have to stand & cook for him & serve to his requests. NO, do not ever settle for that, you are a QUEEN and deserve to led by a KING. A man with ambition will always be busy, busy helping you with dinner, making sure your car is clean, fixing something around the house, taking on some kind of a DIY project. (Ps. this does not mean if your man lays on the couch for an hour just to relax that he doesn't have ambition)
A man with ambition will be the person to also encourage you, to dream big with you, he will be supporting you in the things you want to take on in life. He will spur you on & also guide you and spend time talking to you about big life decisions you & him want to make to make sure that the correct decisions are made. This man will also make sure to follow his own passions in life & that is where his success will come from.
FOURTH: Respect
A real man will show you as a woman respect in every aspect of your life. A real man will never break you down as a woman, a wife or as a mom. The way he talks to you when the two of you are alone should never be different from the way he speaks to you when he is around his friends or family, that is something that should always stay consistent. Speaking to you or about you in general should not include, him making fun of the way you look or the way you walk or do things. In the case that someone is making fun of you where you feel embarrassed or a comment was unappropriated, your man should by all means then be standing up for you and defending your honour & value.
If he doesn't, DON'T take that shit, It is only going to get worse.
To me these four things are the most important things to look for FIRST.
With Love
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