Love, what do we know as love? many people have various definitions , some say love is showing care and affection to someone even though they don't deserve it, others say its the desire to want someone to be better than what he or she is, many people have different definitions, some even go to the Bible for its definitions.
But I want to ask you, have you ever felt a good feeling within you when someone does something for you you believe you don't deserve, the good feeling from the heart when you see that someone showing you care and affection? is it safe to call that feeling love?
But I have observed something lately, whennit comes to love majority of us (especially girls) see material things as love, girls tend to fall in love with guys who have money ( either through good means or bad) all because of the material things it can give to them, but I will not be quick to judge for I am a student of psychology and its my lifestyle to want to understand why people act the way they do. Studying female psychology, women tend to stay with men who have money not necessarily because of love but to feel SAFE, yes girls who are after guys who have cash is not for love but for the safety and security the money can bring, as we can all agree we are in a Society where "money speaks", but still with the nature of man, those girls end up paying for it with a price, either with there bodies or with their glories, and in the case the girls are to blame because just because a guy has lots of money and can et you all the material things you need doesn't mean he loves you and doesn't mean you should still stay when you see evil in the methods of him getting his money.
Girls usually make this mistake to ignoring the guys who really love them for guys who have money and lots of material things more than the guys who love them, leaving love for money will never work out because money comes and goes but love stays forever, by the time they realise that those guys can get many other girls with their material things just as they did, then they know they were just used for their sexual satisfaction and then later on they want to go back to the guy who showed them love. The fact that girls feel a sense of safety and security in money doesn't mean they should see it as love and forsake other guys who don't have money, girls like that just end up getting used because itsoney they are after not love.
Love is not material things, Love is not money, Love is feelings of happiness, pain, pleasure when you are with that special someone, love is not do this for me and I will do this for you, love is not if you want me then do this for me, no that not what love is, love is I will do this for you because I want to do this for you because I want to do this for you.
I have had my experiences with girls who go after guys for their money seeing it as love, they end up having a rough love life, they end up broken, used, and cheat about with other guys all because they don't have the satisfaction of love in their life.
The need for safety and security is different from the need to love and be loved.
let's get this straight, material things, money, they are not love, before they existed love existed, before the world was created Love was in existence, ask me why? because God was in existence before the creation of the Earth and man and God is Love, so why base material things on love, when its love who gibes birth to all things.
my own personal advice to the ladies, stay with your man who you know loves you and wants to build his future with you while he is still struggling,l and hustling, for when he becomes successful he will spend on you everyday like its his last and won't want to let you go, not for a scammer, yahoo boy or a fraudster who gets his abundant money through evil means all in the name of "I want to use the latest iPhone"
My name is Elegushi Oluwaseun Adeniyi and I'am just giving my opinion.
Thank you!