Success doesn't just happen overnight or by chance. It's the result of relentless and habitual effort for years, and sometimes a lifetime, toward aspirations and goals. Though "successful" can have multiple definitions, we can agree upon a generally accepted one a person is successful when he/she leads others to success, meets his/her personal and professional goals, creates something useful and innovative, and makes a lot of money while making a lot of people happy at the same time. Most of us would be happy with any one of those elements of success.
To get to that level, you have to learn from the habits of the people who came before you. Take, for instance, these seven common habits, which have come to define some of the most successful people in the world:
They Invest in Themselves. You can invest in a car, invest in a stock, or even invest in tonight's entertainment. There's only one investment that really matters, however, and it's the one that's going to stick with you for the rest of your life: it's you and nothing else. Investing in yourself is crucial if you want to be successful, and that means prioritizing your own development over the development of things outside yourself. For example, education is rarely a poor investment, either in time or in money. Reading the news regularly and attending free online classes e.g. Coursera.com, Alison.com, is often more than enough to develop your mind and perspective. No matter what you do or how you do it, it's in your best interest to regularly and consistently enable yourself to grow, whether that means learning new information, acquiring new skills, or reshaping yourself as a person.
They Aren't Held Back by Failure. Are you in a bad debt right now or your business plan projection for 2018 is static and you are frustrated? Maybe your marriage is currently diving towards a shipwreck or possibly yours just ended and it’s like you are dead alive. The road to success is rarely straight. In fact, most successful people have only found success after enduring, and overcoming, the foul taste of failure in their own lives. Take, for example, Bill Gates, whose first business, Traf-o-Data was a complete and utter failure. Rather than give up and take a normal job somewhere else, Gates went on to create Microsoft, and we all know how that story ended. Failures come in all shapes and sizes, from embarrassing social mistakes to critical business collapses. Successful people make it a habit to prevent these failures from getting to them. Instead, they're focused on continuing to move forward.
They Think in the Long Term. Successful people tend to make long-term decisions, rather than decisions that make sense in the moment; this is called delayed gratification. Aliko Dangote the 100th world’s richest man says, “I built a conglomerate and emerged the richest black man in the world in 2008 but it didn’t happen overnight. It took me 30 years to get to where I am today. Youths of today aspire to be like me but they want to achieve it overnight. It’s not going to work. To build a successful business, you must start small and dream big. In the journey of entrepreneurship, tenacity of purpose is supreme.”
They Aren't Afraid to Move Forward. Sometimes, the only difference between successful people and ordinary people is that successful people made a decision to move forward. Ordinary people are frequently crippled by fear, uncertainty, and hesitation, but successful people are able to move past that and move forward despite those feelings. Richard Branson, famed serial entrepreneur, always started things before he felt truly ready, and his gumption to make progress drove him to greater success.
Be Focused. Focus is critical for success, but creating and maintaining focus is a hard habit to start. Distractions are everywhere in our lives, from the small scale (with emails, phones, and the lure of the Internet) to the large scale (with competing offers, other projects, and "easier" routes). Staying true to your most important goals is important if you want to eventually achieve those goals. Each moment you spend doing something unrelated to those goals can be considered a moment wasted.
Be Positive. It's hard to be positive in the face of an overwhelming project, or after a crushing blow to your long-term plans, but successful people are able to do it. Rather than focusing on the negative, they focus on the positive. They turn challenges into opportunities. They express gratitude for what they do have instead of longing or grief for what they don't. They use self-talk positively instead of negatively, and they look to the future instead of the past.
They Understand the Meaning of Work-Life Balance. Hard work is imperative. Without a strong work ethic and a commitment to executing that work properly, it's almost impossible to ever become successful. However, working hard doesn't mean abandoning the important parts of your personal life. My career startup job in Lagos Nigeria was a tough one, I had no social life, I hit the road for work by 5:30am to avoid traffic and closes 10pm due to same reason for 5 days in a week and Saturday’s half day work with no overtime… ”very crazy yeah”. Rest, relaxation, and because time spent with your family and friends are all critically important for your mental wellbeing. Taking time off of work every once in a while, and preserving a healthy work-life balance is important, and is preserved even by the hardest-working, most successful people on the planet.
Don't feel like you need to embody all seven of these habits in order to be successful. One of the greatest things about success is that it's defined subjectively, and can be achieved via any number of different paths. Still, learning from and adopting these habits can help you become more successful in your own life, no matter how you choose to define that success.