Imagine you are in a party or a meeting with friends and you behave normally. You joke, you laugh and you enjoy every second of it. Just that moment, you see at some distance that your crush is slowly entering the scene. And just ask your friends what all would happen to you. You suddenly start to have small drops of sweat thought you are sitting under zero degree Celsius, you start shaking your hands, legs or whole body sometimes, you smile like an idiot with no reason, your mouth automatically stammers and keep moving here and there to get some attention.
Well, exactly when you are in this kind of situation, if someone asked you to talk to your crush, what could you do? It is simple, you would surely talk all the stupid things in the world in all the stupid ways you can. The only main reason could be, you are shy along with a tension to impress the crush somehow with your words or actions.
So now we have decided to impress them. But what to do with this shy? What if we do something silly and because of it, they might hate us altogether? Keep all these fears away and read this blog to understand what could be done and how to avoid being shy when your crush is around
Let us see this in points:
First, ask yourself why you are so shy in front of them. The only reason could be in an attempt to impress, you might end up doing something silly. But by asking yourself what makes you shy, whether your language, your looks or way of behavior that is not good compared to them, try to improve and show.
Love yourself first. Oh come on friends, you are the king of your own kingdom. So if you don’t love yourself first, who would do it? So, keep telling and assuring yourself that you are awesome and adorable.
Analyze what you would do immediately after seeing the crush. Obviously, you do whatever I have explained in the start right? So, just try not to do all that. Try to stay calm. Sit on a chair and drink a glass of water. Ask your friends to help you in keeping your mind steady by talking something motivating.
Friends are the best and the worst human relations we could ever have. Good friends always motivate you and encourage towards your successful proposals and bad ones would always add sarcastic sexy and gross way of comments and make you more tenser. Avoid those kind of friends. Have good ones around.
Be ready with some topics that doesn’t come with attached arguments or issues. When your crush is around, always look pleasant while talking. Never enter in loud arguments or fist fights. Remember, one punch on your friend’s face is like one punch on your crush’s impression too.
The most important thing to remember is, if your crush also likes you or has crush on you, then there is a greater chance of her to have the same shyness just like you and because of this, she might not react to you or talk to you initially. Just give her time and watch your love grow.
Your friends may tease you saying “you are a boy and you shouldn’t be shy”. So in an attempt to encourage you, they are actually pushing you towards doing something silly which you aren’t used to do ever. Remember,guys also have shy, and it’s just normal.
Look appealing, smart, handsome or whatever the way you look good. From head to toe, try wearing accessories that your crush likes to see on you if you know her already. As first impression is always the best, look best before her to get an yes. Of course, you can continue that later too.
Tell yourself that only you can bring real happiness in her life and she’s lucky to have you as a special one. And always look confident. Girls love boys who are more confident. So, if you are one, there is nothing to feel shy about.
Approach them in a good and smart way. Some people would just hit straight on the target and say, “hey, would you go out” and that’s the last they would see the girls. If you have mutual friends, approach them through your friends. Give shake hands softly and not like you are pumping petrol from earth. Avoid stupid boring pick up lines like, "did you just fart coz you blew me away". if you do this, you right away give an impression of a playboy.
Smile and Smile. Smile is the best thing in this world. Keep a smiling face throughout your conversation. No one in this world could forget or avoid a smiling face.
No one is perfect: No one is perfect in this world. In fact the percentage “100%” itself is not 100 completely. Its something around 99.9999% which is read as 100%. So, don’t try to be perfect in front of them. Just be the way you are. If you understand this, your shy will leave you and make you confident.
Let her decide who she wants: some situations like you find that your best friend also has a crush on the same girl. You might try more or give up in a shy thinking what would happen if your friend finds out that you’re also trying to impress her. That’s wrong. Never give up and keep trying in a good way because it is she, who’s going to decide.
Never bring controversial topics in between you both on the first day of talking. Imagine you asking her, “Do you believe in Russians having a nuclear bomb that could destroy the world in seconds?” or like, “have you seen the celebrity’s nude pic on the fashion magazine isn’t it amazing?” or "do you think poop is that color because of urea levels in the body?" you can easily guess the look on her face.
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