3 Ways to Facing Silent and Shy Children
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Emotional Child
Child's emotional development often confuses parents. Not infrequently who responded expressively and hard. Even parents often feel anxious or worried about the changes that occur in children. Including when the child becomes shy, quiet, and happy to be alone.
Embarrassment in children begins to appear at the age of one year. At that time the embarrassment arises because the child has begun to distinguish between people who are already familiar with the people he considers foreign. This embarrassment does not appear suddenly, but can be due to the child's temperament from birth and due to the influence of parental treatment of children.
High Hope
There are several types of parental treatment that makes children shy. Among them, too high expectations from parents to children. Parents expect children to be 'superior'. Whether it concerns intelligence, intelligence, expression, humor, and physical development. However, this parent's expectation can actually turn into pressure for the child when excessive.
Child psychology articles that highlight the exaggerated parental attitudes in protecting children, it will give a bad effect on children. Parents who are too protective, a lot of prohibition, as well as a variety of restrictions would make children afraid to do and shame the people around him.
In educating children, parents are usually trapped in a variety of fears and aggravation to face the development of psychiatric children. Prohibition or parental restriction is a mirror of fear when children want to play will get dirty, get sick, fall, or other fears. While on the other hand, when children show stubbornness and freedom of expression are often caught as an aggravating burden on parents so it needs to be limited.
Competition
While other factors that affect children to be shy is the competition between siblings or peers. An active child will be sociable, jovial, and easy to attract attention. While the passive child tends to withdraw because of lack of response from other children. This condition will make children more shy and depressed.
Facing children like this, parents need to give up their ambition in educating children. Many children's psychology articles emphasize that parents give freedom to children, to feel what they want. Especially when children aged 1 - 5 years, the flexibility in this expression would actually develop a child's psyche into someone who is active. So the child will not be embarrassed or afraid of his environment.
